35 Ways To Keep Him Interested: How to make him jealous? In this article, you will learn 35 powerful secrets that will make your man chase you. I’m also going to tell you exactly what to do to keep him interested. I’m Dr. Antonio Borel. I’m a psychologist and a relationship coach. This website is all about helping you build great relationships. so you can grow happy with the people you love.
These tips are so powerful and work so well is because they’re based on psychological science and triggering a man’s instincts to pursue a woman. When you use these step-by-step tips, you’re going to demonstrate the fact.
How Does Attraction Work For A Man?
When oxytocin is released in a woman’s body, she will feel and create a bond with the very person that has triggered the release of oxytocin. So, in this case, it can be the man she’s dating.
Dr. Loretta Bruning once said the oxytocin release would raise the trust you hath in a guy. In other words, you get the illusion that he’s perfect even when he isn’t right for you. That’s rather strange, and men don’t suffer much from this.
So oxytocin has a different effect on a man’s body, and that’s one that you may even like. Because when you make sure that the man you are dating the man you are in a relationship with but even the man you are married also gets some oxytocin. It may make him less interested in even repulsed by other attractive women. Wouldn’t that be great and proven by scientific research.
Oxytocin isn’t bad for us. It can give us great feelings, but we have to be mindful of the side effects of our romantic relationship. Oxytocin makes you idealize the man you are dating or the man you are in a relationship with, whether he’s a great guy. or not. That’s the thing to remember because your mind will automatically start to trust him and love him more just because of the oxytocin.
How To Keep Him Interested?
We will talk about some feminine ways to keep a man interested in you and keep a man chasing you. It is a trendy topic in the dating world because, obviously, as a woman, you want to be desired. You want a man to be addicted to you long term.
So even if you’re in a marriage, you want your husband to like you still and to give you always things and chase you in whatever you’re doing that’s a normal human desire. I don’t want you to be ashamed of wanting that is normal. As a feminine woman, it’s going to be essential for you to know how men operate.
So that way, you know how to work alongside them. It’s also essential that you’re able to look within yourself and determine what areas are lacking. So I want to talk about all of these things.
I want us to discuss the real ways that you, as a feminine woman, can keep a man interested in you long term. So go ahead and get something to eat, something to write with, sit back, relax, and let’s jump into the article.
Today, we have this pressure as women to keep a man that notion in itself is so problematic. Because a person doesn’t need to be controlled and the idea and the energy around wanting to save someone can cause many problems.
We won’t talk about that today, but I want you to understand that if you’re one of something so wrong and you can’t stop thinking about it. You want this man to be calling you, texting you, taking you out, chasing you, and buying you things, although it might be the human desire and natural.
When you are operating in the energy of lack, then you continue to receive an experience that you need to know that everything you need. So let’s start our journey!
1. Give Him Your Attention
As human beings, we are all wired to crave each other’s attention. We crave attention from those that matter most to us, the people we love most. When I was a little kid, I was the youngest of four. I still am the youngest of four. As a little kid, we would watch what my older sister and brothers wanted to watch.
We’d go to restaurants where they wanted to go. I used to get so frustrated that I didn’t have any influence or wouldn’t get attention. I was this little toe-headed kid. I’d get crazy. My face would go beet red. I’d stomp into the kitchen. What I learned, how to do to get attention.
I learned how to bite, I would bite my sister or bite my brothers, and they would scream. My parents would come in, and I would get the attention that I wanted. At least I got some attention. So, my parents came up with a strategy for me to help me. Because they figured out I was biting.
I was three years old, and they taught me how to ask for the attention that I was craving. My dad would say if you want attention, all you have to do is come to me and say, “Dad, I want some attention” So, I said okay. The next day when I was craving some attention, I ran into the kitchen. I said, ‘Dad, I want some attention’ My dad laughed, he goes, ‘You want some attention?’ I go, ‘Yeah! I want attention now’.
So he scooped me up in his arms while he was cooking. Men craved the attention of women. If you want to blow your man’s mind, you want to blow his hair back if you’re going on a first date. You want to impress him on the first date.
Here’s what you do, Let him talk 80 percent of the time. I know it might sound a bit crazy but what you’re doing is you’re giving him your attention. You’re putting the focus on him. You let him talk 80 percent of the time. Notice what he’s doing. He’s trying to impress you.
He’s trying to woo you. He’s trying to be the man he thinks you want him to be. And so, you give him that attention. Then, you are impressed by some of the things he’s saying. It will be the best first date he has ever had. He will want that second date with you. Because, remember, the universe, it doesn’t read our intention to have a great relationship that lasts.
It reads your attention where you’re placing that attention. So, give that attention to your man, in specific moments. Celebrate him for what he’s doing. You’ll notice that it will help that relationship. It will help his interest to last.
2. Give Him Micro-Challenges
The second point that helps keep a man’s interest forever is to give him micro-challenges. What’s a micro challenge? We men love challenges. We love games. We love what creates a challenge.
Think about men who love sports or men who love video games or men who love work projects. Why? Because there’s a challenge. A challenge comes with a goal, a gap, and a timeline. Think about men who hit tiny little ball hundreds of yards away. There’s a small hole, and they try to put the tiny ball in a bit of jam.
They will spend hours and hours and hours at this game trying to knock this ball into this hole in fewer hits or fewer strokes. The game is called golf. Men get obsessed with golf. Why? Because it’s hard and there’s a challenge.
There’s a payoff. Well, you can use that same dynamic. It’s a little pressure point in the relationship by giving him micro-challenges. My wife is great at this. Micro-challenge could be, ‘Hey honey! I’m craving some sushi this weekend. Would you be willing to pick some up for me?’ or ‘Hey honey! I’m craving some doing something new this weekend.
Would you take me out?’ or ‘Hey honey! I’ve got this knot in my back. Would you be willing to work it out for me?’ Micro-challenges are a goal, a gap, and a timeline. In other words, the goal is, you’re craving sushi, which is to have sushi in your belly.
The gap is, you’re craving it, you’re not having sushi, and the timeline is this weekend. When you give your man these little micro-challenges, it works wonders in keeping him special. He’s accomplishing this challenge. The key is the payoff.
He gets that payoff with you, which is that hug, that smile. The sparkle in your eye that says, ‘Thank you! You are my man. You did a great job!’ Now notice the specific phrasing, ‘I’m craving some sushi’ ‘Would you pick some up for me?’ or ‘I’d love to do something new’ ‘Would you take me somewhere this weekend?
When it’s done in a feminine way, specific phrasing ignites his masculine energy and amplifies the feel-good power he has. So, if you want different phrasing or if you want to know what feminine attributes ignite his masculine energy, I’m going to put a free resource I created for you. I’ve written an ebook called “Five Feminine Qualities High-Value Men Find Irresistible” I’ll link it in as a gift to you from me.
3. Give Him Random Wet Kisses
Men love wet kisses. We love it. We love wet kisses, wet kisses when he doesn’t expect. It is at a whole another level. It’s a pressure point. So, you’re leaving for work, you’re like, ‘Hey honey! Hold on, come here!’
You grab his face, and you give him a wet kiss. You get home from work, and you hug him, give him a wet kiss. I promise you, if you are doing that, he will be thinking about you all day.
4. Encouraging His Space
Encourage him to get guy time. Encourage him to get out of the house. Encourage him to get away and do something that’s going to stoke his masculine biochemistry. Here’s why this matters.
As men, we have biochemical rhythms and the biochemical rhythm that helps us bond to you. It is influenced by us being willing and able to pull away. We are doing something that strokes our masculine biochemistry.
It wants to bring us back to you. I call this the law of elasticity. It comes from hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary programming. When we were cavewoman, caveman and the men’s job was primarily to hunt. If he didn’t desire to go and pursue, he needed some biochemistry that would ignite him.
It would want him to go out and hunt because hunting was hard. The hunt was dangerous. It was cold and uncomfortable. It was way more comfortable to lay near the fire in the cave and snuggle up with his cavewoman and just staying there. But every man feels this desire after spending close time with his woman to pull away and do something masculine. That’s the natural law of elasticity.
So, a woman should encourage this, because the modern man doesn’t recognize this as much. The modern man isn’t required to go out and hunt in the same way.
So, as a woman, one of these pressure points is you can encourage him by saying, ‘hey! Go, get some guy time’ ‘hey! Go out of here and go golfing or play a sport or do something. I can feel you getting restless when you think that your man is nervous.
Encourage him to get away, and then he will fill up his tank. He will come back, and he will want to be even closer to you. Now get away time does not mean weeks or months away. It is not that he’s been gone for a few weeks, and he’s just getting his guy time.
No, that’s him like leaving. It’s not a matter of weeks. We’re talking a matter of hours. Get him space! Have an afternoon away, and come back! He’ll want to bond with you when you encourage this. You will stoke his emotional desire. It will create a connection with you. He will appreciate you so much for it.
5. Give Yourself Rejuvenation Time
This is a massive pressure point. When you are burned out, you are not at your best. Your man feels that he knows that. He wants you to feel good. He wants you to be happy. When you’re happy, your man is happy. So, this is often the hardest one to do. Because many women I know many women that I coach, my wife included they feel guilty.
You will feel guilty for wanting to get your own time. But know this, you giving yourself your own time, filling your cup is a gift to your man. It’s a gift to the kids as a gift to those around you. My wife combined two of these pressure points.
Recently, she gave me a mission. The mission was to help her get some rejuvenation time. She said, ‘Hey Matt, I haven’t seen my girlfriends in such a long time. I’m craving pool time with my girlfriends. Would you be willing to take the kids on Saturday and take them out so that I could get some solo girl time by the pool?’ I said, ‘I’m on that for you, babe. Yes! I will’.
So, Saturday came. I packed up the kids. We left. We went to the park. We went to do a bunch of stuff. We had some fun. We were gone for hours. When I came back, my daughter ran through the house into the backyard, sees her mom with her friends. She comes back. She goes, ‘Dad, mom and her friends are fashionable.’ I said, ‘What is fashionable?’ I walked outside, and I saw the smile on my wife’s face.
I saw the light in her eyes. She was sitting by the pool wearing a bikini and her friends. They all had drinks in their hand. It looked like a vegas scene. I said, ‘Yep! That is fashionable!’ It felt good because she felt good. So give yourself the rejuvenation time. You want that because you need that. It will help the relationship last.
6. Keep Variety
Variety is one of our human needs. We require certainty, which is consistency. But we’ve got another need for type, which only happens when you consciously infuse variations into the relationship.
So, I challenge you right now you do one, at least one brand new thing every month. Something you’ve never done before with your person. It might be creating a new drink together. You guys are going to look up a new drink. Create a brand new drink that you’ve never had before. Make it at home and cheers.
It might be a new board game that you play together. It might be a hike that you do together. It might be an activity like pickleball. You explore with one-another do something new, something fresh. Because of that freshness, it creates a fresh experience in the relationship. It’s important. What have relationships in movies have in common? Every film is a fresh new experience.
You’re going on a new journey, a new story. Neither one of you has seen or experienced before, but that’s quite frankly the most mundane way to create variety in a relationship. Apart from movies, I challenge you to create one new thing in your relationship every month. It will help fuse that freshness and keep him interested in your relationship, and it will save you interested as well.
7. Stop Talking About Feeling Unappreciated
This one is difficult to do, but it is essential. Let me explain. When you feel like he is taking you for granted or doesn’t appreciate you, it’s natural to feel hurt and angry about it. It makes sense that you would want to talk to him about it. Sometimes that’s enough to turn things around temporarily.
However, if things don’t change, continuing to bring up your complaints might make things worse. Despite all the conversations, nothing changes. Things get more complicated between you. It’s like, he sees you as the one who’s always complaining and nagging at him.
So, you must not bring this topic up again. I know it’s not easy to do, but if you continue to bring it up, you could sabotage your chances of turning things around. Despite how you’re feeling, you must not let him know that you’re upset or sad or worried. Instead of doing those things, you do these steps. He’s going to be the one missing and appreciating you. He will bring it up himself.
8. Prioritize Your Fitness
It’s not uncommon for couples in a relationship to put on some extra pounds and make it to the gym, their fitness less of a priority. People get comfortable with one another and place less emphasis on being in their best and most attractive physical shape.
If you’ve gained a few pounds and don’t have the same hourglass figure you had when you met your man, getting back into that shape is something that he will certainly notice.
So join a gym or start following a particular workout program. Make it a priority. Make sure that he understands how important this is to you. You have specific fitness or size goals to meet. He should be happy that you are making these changes. But he’s also going to know that you are going to be more attractive to everyone.
Other men are also included. Don’t be surprised if he makes comments or asks why you’re trying to look so good. Suppose your physical fitness hasn’t changed at all since you’ve been in a relationship. You can still share with him an increased level of enthusiasm for your wellness.
9. Glamorize Your Looks
When in a relationship, it’s common for people to get so comfortable that they let their appearance fade. If this resonates with you, it’s time to start glamourizing the way that you look when you’re with him. When you’re not with him, dress well, and make sure that your hair and skin glow.
Look your best. He’s going to notice when other men are paying more attention to you. That’s going to remind him that other men find you attractive.
If you’re a person who is always looking your best, consider making a change in the way you look. Perhaps you could change your hair length or color, change your style of clothing, and change your makeup. Just make sure that it’s enough of a change that he will notice. It’s a change that makes you look sexier and more glamorous. The psychology behind these changes is twofold.
First, he’s going to be wondering why you’ve made this significant change in the way that you look. He’s going to be questioning why it’s so essential for you to look better, for you to look different. He’s going to ask if it’s because you want to be attractive to other men.
Again, this will provoke just a little bit of fear that someone else could take his place. The second thing that happens when you change the way you look, the way you dress. He’s going to be wondering if you’re also changing your feelings.
10. Understand Your Value
I want to explain why the fear of losing you is essential to him. Falling in love and staying in love are two different things. At the beginning of most dating relationships, before any commitments are made, people are working towards gaining their partner’s affection and trust.
That’s because when we like someone, we show them, and we tell them, and we work hard to make it known to them in hopes that our feelings are being reciprocated.
We are motivated to show our love. It is by our desire to have this other person and feel insecure about our standing. I’ve talked about it before. The more we invest in someone, the more effort we put into someone, the more we appreciate and like them.
As a result, what happens when a man has no fear of a woman ever leaving him? Then half of his motivation is removed. He no longer has to try so hard. He no longer has to work on securing your love and attention. If he has no fear of ever losing you, he knows that he doesn’t have to be on top of his game. You’ll still be there. He takes you for granted. He does not appreciate you.
He no longer works as hard as making the relationship great. You got to remind him of your value in his life. And by no means when I suggest that you purposefully try to make him feel jealous or engage in any manipulative games.
These tips are all based on focusing on you, prioritizing you and looking fabulous and feeling amazing, and reminding him that he’s with an amazing woman. He must work to ensure he keeps you interested in him.
11. Do Something New
Go out with your friends and have fun again away from your man. Do something for you, take up a new hobby, or do something that you enjoy. This forces him to recognize your independence. You’re not just sitting by the phone waiting for his call.
Remember, one of the most important things that men find attractive and women is independence. He’s got to know how complete your life is and if he becomes part of it. It’s because you want him to be part of it, not because you need him to be part of it.
So make sure that you are keeping up with life. Be yourself and make your priority making. Keep plans with your friends, and keep your schedule busy. This goes a long way towards helping him see you as a high-value woman with an exciting life.
When you do that, he will want to be a part of that, and when he isn’t, he’s going to feel that too. So when he calls you last minute to make plans, oops sorry I have plans.
This will make him prioritize and plan his time with you. he will also begin to recognize that he does not get the privilege of calling you or asking you to go out. He has to earn back that high priority status. Make other plans, and he will start to remember how you used to be available for him when he prioritized a relationship.
12. Create A Safe Zone
Connect with him on an emotionally intimate level. What I’m saying is that you create a safe space for him to be emotionally intimate. Think back to when you felt close and connected with your partner or when you felt that you could tell your partner your deepest secrets.
It would be accepted. We all need that deep connection with someone, and those deep and beautiful feelings of intimacy flourish in an atmosphere of safety. we open up when we feel safe. We take risks when we feel safe.
To create a safe zone for him to be freely expressive to be himself. It means being a person who is very accepting and caring and compassionate. When he’s connected with you on an emotionally intimate level, he will certainly miss you. When he feels disconnected, after all, you want him to be lonely for you. Loneliness is a feeling we get in our hearts when we want intimacy and connect with someone, but no one is available or willing to join.
13. Have The Talk When The Time Is Right
This one is super important. If you’ve done these first steps correctly, your boyfriend will recognize a change and probably become concerned. It’s a good thing you want him to recognize and remember that he has an amazing woman.
Suppose he doesn’t notice the changes, that’s when you should be concerned. So again, you aren’t the one who should bring up this topic. But when he notices your changes, he’s either going to step up his game and become more loving and more like he used to be.
He’s going to bring up what he’s noticed didn’t want to have a conversation about it. That’s perfect, and when he does, be transparent and honest about what you want in your expectations for the relationship.
14. Follow Discipline
You can’t lie to yourself or bargain with yourself that although he isn’t really what you’re looking for that, he will change. Or that things will get better. They won’t, and if anything, they will only get worse. He needs to feel that you aren’t willing to settle that you will not tolerate his behaviors or actions. You disagree, within addition, for him to appreciate you.
He needs to experience this fear of loss, virtually the fear of losing you. This fear will be even greater if you’re at your best self because this type of fear is rooted in love.
But he will only experience this if he knows that you’re willing and able to go away from something that isn’t right. New relationships should be exciting and passionate and comfortable when you like someone.
You want them to know how valuable and important the relationship is, and you want to know that your feelings are being reciprocated. So you treat them with as much affection and consideration as you can. It is precisely how you should be treated. In return, don’t settle for anything.
15. Play With His Mind Games
Men are looking for mind games. I know you don’t want to play a game. I knew it stupid stuff, but it’s part of the human being. We are looking for what we don’t have.
So if you want to make him miss you again, you need to put yourself on the pedestal and not the first train your mind. You will always repeat, I will show him what he has lost. I will show him what he has lost, and you will control your mind.
16. Disconnect Your Contact Sometimes
If you want to make him fall in love again, please let him do the first step. So we will get doing three weeks to make sure we will never text you. We will never call him and never ask him to go out.
We want him to move is us is my friend, but that’s the reality. We want him to fight for you and enjoy this guy to be involved.
Why? Because if not, it will be just a one-sided relationship. and honestly, you will burn yourself, which is not what I want for you.
17. Follow Some Advice
It will just be social because, as men, we ignore women well granted. If we take you for granted, we will leave you. So if you want to make him interested again, you need to be more social. You need to have some experience to try new activities in your life, and then he will realize that you’re not required.
You’re not here for him, so we will have to fight for you. It is why men love. I know it sounds crazy. It’s the reality we are always looking for what we don’t have, and it’s so easy but so easy to make a man jealous again.
18. Develop The Dimensions
I want us to discuss is developing dimensions within you, just like any human being. When they meet you, they’re going to be attracted to whatever you’re presenting. Especially if you’re feminine and sweet, friendly, and beautiful, they’re going to be in love with that and want more of it.
As a man, men are masculine, and that energy is very goal-oriented. So they’re more interested in getting what they want, whatever that is, and for every man, it’s different. So for some men, they want to sleep with you. I mean, masculinity within itself is very goal-oriented. If they meet you and like you, they just want more of it and wanted in their lives.
Your eyes are going to be drawn to what you want in your life. So that’s the vital piece. However, that’s not enough. You’re not a prop. You are more than just your outer appearance.
So you must have multiple dimensions, and that’s why I encourage you to spend so much time with yourself doing things. These are developing your goals, passions, interests, and purpose that will naturally make you a more interesting woman.
Please spend time reading books and being knowledgeable about things and having your own opinions, not the views of people you see on social media. But for you to take everything you see and make your judgments based on your personality and life experiences on top.
You have to remember that everyone gets bored after a while, and it’s not a negative thing. It’s just a state of being after seeing something over and over the same thing in the same way.
Even if it’s excellent, you want a little variety, a little spice. That’s why it’s essential for you to as a woman to be true to yourself. He sees you differently, makes you more attractive. You’re not like everybody else do things that are going to spice things up.
19. Be An Attractive Looking
Change your hairstyle now. I change it more often than the average person because I get bored more often than the average person. So I like to look different. I want to have a different mood or extra energy, depending on how I’m feeling.
On any given day, my hairstyle is an expression of whatever I’m feeling or whatever I want to exude. But be willing to change, be ready to do something adventurous, show a different side of you.
It’s essential to be at least open to modifying things a bit. Men enjoy that, and it’s right for you to try different things. This world is vast. There are so many things that you don’t know. You haven’t explored so many people you haven’t spoken to. There are so many things to absorb.
Don’t get stuck. That is so important. Now, of course, I’m going to mention your physical appearance because that is crucial. Men are visual creatures. They’re moved more by what they see than we are. so that’s important to know, and this is a long-term thing.
It’s not just when you’re dating, mostly if they fell in love with your style. Maybe you have a mixed type, and all of a sudden, now you don’t care about how you look.
You wear sweats all the time. You don’t do your hair. You don’t throw on any makeup or jewelry or perfume, and you’ve got to stay up that happens so naturally. It’s not like you probably even want to do that.
It’s just when you get comfortable with someone, and sometimes you start letting things go a bit because you know that they like you right. So you don’t want to feel like you’re doing it for him.
You want to know that you’re doing it for yourself, which I preach in all of my articles about caring for yourself. Ultimately, a man will want to be part of that, and changing it up is the best way to keep anyone want you.
So get used to switching it up and not always being so predictable. let him get to know that you have to mention and
he’s going to love that.
20. Leave Him Alone
Another feminine way of keeping a man interested in you long-term is by leaving him alone and practicing stillness. Now I know I discussed illness. A lot in my articles, but it is necessary that we, as women, learn how to slow down and sometimes stop.
It would help if you stopped to reflect on yourself once you’ve been dating and getting to know one another and spending time together. You might start to see a shift in his energy. And that’s because you’re in a space where he’s planning for.
21. Find Yourself
The next thing if he wants to marry you is where his focus and energy are going toward so unless. You aren’t inspiring him in some way by your behavior. He’s probably going to move on to the next goal doesn’t mean that he’s not crazy about you.
It just means that now that this is taken care of on to the next thing. However, you can find ways to bring him back, and that is going to require you to go away.
I know that sounds like what do you mean to them. That’s the problem. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in whoever we’re dating that every time we feel it disconnect. I haven’t heard from him who’s he with even when you’re in a marriage.
You will find yourself wanting your husband to chase you, and you’ll do it in different ways in my marriage. You can find yourself enjoying your husband to chase you and feeling like you’re doing things to try to get his attention.
As a man, to fulfill so many roles for you in your life that you forget about what you have. You have so much the most important thing you have is yourself.
22. Be Alone Sometimes
Spending time and stillness is so important if you are feeling like you’re missing something. Because you can then be more aware of your thoughts, you will have time to think about what you want. Think about things that you’re struggling with. Think about ways you can help other people. You will have time to sit down with no interruptions.
Especially if you are married and you’re finding that your husband is not seeking you out like he used to, he’s not as interested. Maybe you are already doing all these things that you think should work, and they’re not that stillness.
You don’t ever have to worry about him chasing you. Especially if he realizes that you’re not operating in desperation that is so attractive to a man. So you need to leave him alone. Don’t blow up his phone, don’t ask him why he hasn’t text you. Don’t badger him, give him that freedom and that space.
It’ll encourage him to want to spend time with you, and you might think, oh, but what if you’re married to him? What if you’re living with him. How can I leave him alone? Well, you can go somewhere. You can go shopping, spend time working on your craft, you can be doing something creative, you can be in your zone.
He needs to go out with his friends. He needs to go and do whatever to do. These alone time recharge him and come back for you.
23. Keep Your Personality Natural
Femininity is one of the most attractive things to a man, not just the feminine exterior, which is essential. But true womanhood lies in your ability to be loving, nurturing, compassionate and care about yourself. So it means that you’re up to par with your hygiene.
You smell good, and your teeth are clean. Your breath smells fresh, and clothes are clean. Your clothes look like you put some effort into it, and you’re doing things like smiling.
You will be shocked at how you can make a man melts by smiling. You don’t even have to do anything, look at him and smile, appear interested in him something. A lot of us women neglect to understand is the power of our femininity. You are born with this stuff, the way you move, and how you look at him mindfulness.
You’re looking at his eyes. You’re in the present moment with him and know how to receive it. When you receive, you do it to where he feels that energy like you appreciated it. You liked it, so be a cheerful receiver, and I know that so many of you want me to like act it out for you.
So you can mimic it, but it has to be part of your personality. If you mimic how I receive or what I would typically do, it might look crazy on you. Because it doesn’t go with your natural personality, so focus on the key, which is being a cheerful receiver.
24. Start Pacing Yourself
You want to build up a momentum. If you’re already a little far into the relationship, that’s fine. You can still do this and find ways. How much power you have when you’re the one in control? How much you want to give of yourself?
How much time do you want to give? They can shift the relationship. If you start pulling the reins back or taking some control, he wants to start seeing you every single day.
Sometimes you can take a break and take a step back. Build the momentum that way when you’re not around. He misses you ten times more. He starts thinking about and fantasizing about the course. He’s going to see you next and what you guys are going to do what. You’re going to talk about it, and it gives him that time to prepare himself.
The more that he prepares himself, the more mentally he’s investing in you, and he’s going to want it to work out. He’s also going to get, so you sued these once a week dates that turn into twice a weekdays that turn into three times a week. It’s rewarding him for doing a good job and impressing you, which fuels his ego.
25. Keep It Fun & Exciting
Don’t be afraid to have fun like order fun candy and make jokes with him. Cuddle with his arms and tell him how cute he is and make it a fun experience.
Never be afraid to pour your personality into these dates and moments with him to make it more fun. The more fun you are, the more positive energy you bring to them.
It can be extremely addicting because every time you’re around them. You’re on a high, so of course, you’re going to get used to it and never want to let it go.
26. Give Him Freedom & Space
There are usually two different types of guys. There are the guys that want to be around you 24/7. They want to do everything with you and want you to come with them. They want you to be at home to watch Netflix as soon as they get off work.
Then there are those guys who really enjoy spending time with you, but then there’s a time where they’re like man, I need a break like I need some time. It’s overwhelming like they start to freak out in their head a little bit, and that’s when you notice guys pulling it back.
Sometimes it can be the guys that are 24/7 wanting to be with you, and sometimes it can be the guys who are a little more reserved and harder to get. But either way, no matter which type of guy you’re going after right now, you still want to make sure you make it clear.
You have your own life and give them space. It’s normal for guys to feel overwhelmed. Some guy they’re just not built like us their brains work differently than us.
They have different needs, wants, and situations. As girls, we don’t understand because I feel like when we fall in love, we’re like, oh my gosh, you’re the one. I want to be with you all the time, and I know this will work, but with guys, it’s like they can feel that way.
The next day, they don’t feel like that anymore or are starting to question it. So when you have your own life, it doesn’t make them ask that overwhelming feeling.
It rarely makes them feel overwhelmed because they’re trying to figure out how to get you closer to them instead of getting you to keep your own life. So if you keep your hobbies, you keep your job. But you don’t start cutting down your hours and trying to spend every second of the day with them. It makes them want that more.
If you don’t give them space and are all up in their face all up in their text messages, all up in their face time, they never really have that time to realize that they’re becoming addicted to you. They don’t have that time to miss you and crave you.
You have that firm commitment but until then, let him dream you. Keep living your life, and don’t be afraid to put yourself first. Because the more you’re away, the more they miss you, and the more they value you.
27. Be His Best Friend
Be his best friend, and be the person he confides in, be the person that can help him when he feels overwhelmed. Because the more of a support system you are for them, the more that they need you.
It’s an addiction at that point because they feel like they can not get through hard times without you. They don’t know how to have a bad day anymore without you to cheer them up.
I feel like so many girls these days are like, no, I need to be an independent woman. He needs to earn me cooking for him and needs to make me help him. But in reality, yes, of course, you don’t just give away all your services to a guy that’s not putting in the effort.
If this guy’s putting an action, you’re dating or building a relationship and a foundation with him, and you want to show how you will support him stand by him.
28. Be In A Good Mood
Be in a good mood and focus on your own life. It shines outward, and the relationship reflects. You essentially set the emotional tone for the relationship. When you feel perfect and happy on the inside, the relationship demonstrates. It fixes a lot of problems, and it’s feeling good.
Men honestly can not get enough of the female energy that this exudes. It fixes a lot of problems and prevents a lot of issues too. When you’re in a good mood, it’s just an addicting feeling. It makes a man keep his interest and re-establish his interest. It gets deeper.
29. Support Him All Time
What touches a man’s soul really looking deep in his heart and understanding him deeply. As a man, what’s meaningful to him. Every man wants to win and move toward his ultimate mission. What a man wants to become and what he considers?
A winner is different for every man, but he needs a deep sense of moving in the direction. He wants in his life toward what’s meaningful to him. When you understand what motivates him and what he wants from his life, you’ll feel you know him deeply.
As a man, you see men want to feel understood, and when you know what motivates him as a man and what deflates him, shuts him down and makes him feel uninspired, then guess what you can do. You could help support him and the things that go in the direction of motivating and supporting his dreams.
You encourage him to follow that, and you discourage and identify what will make him feel broken and defeated. This makes him feel like you’re a woman that brings out his best powerfully supports him.
It puts you in a position where you’re the woman in this corner, the one woman he can never forget about the one woman who changed his life who invests. Make him a bigger winner, and he ever could be on his own.
30. Stop Pursuing Him
You start feeling like your man is slipping away from you or not pursuing you as he did before. The most obvious reaction is to try to hold on to him or to bring him closer. It’s the instinctual thing to do. It’s also the very worst thing that you can do. That’s because you cannot pursue a man. he has to pursue you. Remember this: he’s a man.
From both an evolutionary perspective and a cultural perspective, men are prepared to pursue women in the courting process.
They are not ready to be followed by women; think about it. Boys are taught that they’re supposed to show interest. They are trained to ask girls to dance to ask for their number and ask them to go out on a date.
So on this is something that’s been ingrained in them in so many ways. They’re brought up knowing that they are supposed to initiate and pursue, and besides being part of their socialization from an evolutionary perspective, the chase is also a primal response.
It’s ingrained into the brain’s deepest parts and evolutionary response to millions of years of competing with others for survival. So if he has to pursue you for your attention, then he values you. If you try to pursue him, he’s unconsciously going to think that other men don’t want you and don’t pursue you.
So why should he then your values goes down? So this is super important. He’s a man, and he has to pursue you. You have to stop chasing after him. You have to stop following him.
31. Follow The 80-20 Rules
Let me get very specific with you on this one. I want you to practice the 80/20 rule or even the 85/15 rule. It means that you must let him initiate contact or communication 80% of the time, which means you have to stop texting him. First, you have to stop checking on him. You cannot ask to see him or try to initiate plans instead, and you must let him do it.
Let him do it 80% of the time, not always, but 80% of the time, he should be reaching out to your first look. I know this isn’t easy to do because you want him and you miss him, and you want to talk to him. It’s hard not to reach out because you want to be connected and communicating.
It isn’t easy to do, but you must do it. Make sure that you’re letting him initiate and make him wait before returning his calls and texts. I understand the urge to respond immediately, especially if you’ve been waiting to hear from him for a while.
But taking some time before responding to him sends the message that you are busy and not just sitting by your phone waiting for him to reach out. have patience and take your time before responding doing so will undoubtedly increase his yearning for you.
32. Respect Yourself
Do you believe in the core of your being that you are a woman who deserves to be loved unconditionally by a wonderful man? If you believe that your dating behaviors or relationship behaviors communicate, you accept less than you deserve.
You are keeping your standards and expectations high. When you think that you are a woman deserving of love, you will act apart and attract that kind of man. Essentially believing that you are the prize is practicing soft love, but as you can imagine practicing self-love in a new intimate relationship.
It is often easier said than done because when we have strong romantic desires for another person. We usually do things that we will win their affection. We overlook red flags, and we forgive bad behavior that chemically induced love fog overrides our ability to evaluate things clearly and objectively.
We get swept up and are sometimes engaging in behaviors that are anything but soft loving. This is when the majority of dating mistakes happen. The errors that cause men to lose interest or bail on you or use you for sex.
Remember, a man will treat you the way you allow him. When a man is testing your boundaries, how do you handle it? Do you give him multiple chances or make excuses for his poor behavior. Because you’re afraid of losing him when you believe that you are the prize, you will put your self-respect above your feelings and remain true to your standards and enforce your boundaries.
You are the prize also means that you’re not continually trying to measure how much he likes you or wants you, and instead, you’re more focused on how he measures up you’re more concentrated.
33. Never Be Too Accessible
Never be too accessible before a severe relationship develops before being fully committed and serious about making a future with you. Don’t always be available for him by always saying yes when he calls and asks you to go out.
Especially if he’s getting with a short notice saying no to his request for the plan, sends him the message that you have other engagements or other commitments that are taking priority at least at this time.
When he’s asking, it also forces him to recognize that you are an independent high-value woman and that you’re not just sitting by the phone waiting for his calls. Remember one of the most important things that men find attractive. He’s got to know how complete your life is.
If he becomes part of it, it’s because you want him to be a part of it, not because he needs him to be part of it. Does that sound like you’re playing games?
If you’re acting like you are busy, but you’re sitting at home watching Netflix, yeah, that’s not what I’m referring to instead. I’m suggesting that you make sure that you are keeping up with life.
Before meeting him, you had to be yourself and make yourself a priority make and keep plans with your girlfriends and keep your schedule busy. This goes a long way towards helping him see you as a high-value woman with an exciting life.
When you do that, he’s going to want to be part of that. So don’t be so eager to give a man access to your time and attention. Don’t give up time with your family, friends, and hobbies when a new guy asks you on a date last minute. Trust me. He will appreciate and respect you more.
34. Never Act Exclusively
Never act exclusively with a man who is still keeping his options open. If a man tells you he’s not looking for a relationship or anything serious, you need to believe him. If you think that you are the prize, you will know that you can do better. You will never entertain the idea of getting involved with a man who doesn’t want a relationship regardless of how attractive or successful.
He might be, while it might be tempting to adjust your wants and needs to accommodate his. This is absolutely something that you can not do. You’re seeking a long-term relationship.
For example, you start dating a guy who has made it clear that he isn’t seeking anything serious, but you like him.
If you play a casual and go along with his wants, you’ll eventually be able to convince him to align his desires with yours. You may feel that this is working in the short term, but you are only setting yourself up for disappointment in the long run. think about it!
You are working on changing his mind. We all have limited time and resources. Why are you going to waste yours trying to change him? You could be with someone who is seeking the same thing and worthy of your time.
You have to believe guys when they say that they’re not looking for a relationship. Trust me. You will save yourself so much time, effort, heartache, and disappointment.
35. Be Willing To Walk Away
You must be willing to walk away from someone and something if it isn’t working. Stop entertaining his half-hearted attempts to show you that he cares. In other words, if he’s given you mixed messages, that’s half-hearted.
So if a man is not showing you the love and affection you expect, don’t complain about it. Don’t nag or fight with him. That’s not going to change anything; instead, take away your attention.
Be willing to walk away. If he has any real desire for you, he will pull out all the stops to get you back. But again, he must know that he has to change or he’s going to lose you. That’s not something you need to tell him. It’s something that you need to demonstrate to him in your behavior.
He needs to feel that you aren’t willing to settle that you aren’t going to tolerate his behavior or actions that you disagree with. He has to be afraid that he will lose you if he doesn’t step up his game. he will only experience this if he knows that you’re willing and able to walk away from something that isn’t right for you.
I hope these tips encourage you to develop yourself in a way that would keep a man interested in your long term. In a way that will help you to preserve who you are. You will feel so fulfilled knowing that you have a balance of both and that one indeed does drag the other.
When you apply these tips that you will be amazed by the fact that he will come back, you will talk to you, and you will show you some love. Suppose you want to make your boyfriend interested again and want to make your date interested. You have to be a challenge to get your life.
Do some new experiences to make sure you relate to the first step to be social and the last one, which is crucial for me to understand that you need to change your lousy pattern and habits. You need to put yourself. First, you always need to have all of your confidence showing to a man. We can do it together.
If you have any question, feel free to ask me in the comment section write below. I have studied human nature, and I have to study and coach so many people.
So I can guarantee you that every action, every detail is essential. Now it’s your time to take the lid off your life and to make sure you will make him miss you again. I will see you soon for a new article. I wish you a happy relationship.
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