How To Fix A Broken Relationship? I’m so excited because we are talking about love and relationships. We will talk about some relationship goals to make your love grow stronger. Because no matter if you happen to be in the lovey-dovey relationship as time goes on, the bond doesn’t break. But things can get a bit boring, especially when we have routines.
Relationships are complicated and sometimes confusing because humans are unpredictable. We don’t always know what we’re doing or what we want. Then we’re supposed to merge with another person of this species and have it all work together seamlessly.
We’ll be getting into all of that. So, I’ve found that most articles I see on relationships focus on things to be aware of in the other person. Not so many things to be mindful of within ourselves. It’s easy to point fingers at others, what we expect from them, and what is wrong with them.
25 Relationship Problems & Solutions
How about things with you? I want to focus on both because they’re equally important. I specifically want to focus on 25 ideas or best relationship advice that I’ve come to learn. Those things are:
1. Be Honest From The Beginning
We’re animals. We see potential mates, and we do what we can to attract them. We may not puff out our chests or lift our arms as some other species do. Instead, we try to look and behave our very best, as one should. We all like to see someone put in the effort. But there’s a difference between putting your best foot forward and putting afoot ahead that isn’t even yours.
How can a person be honest? Honesty isn’t about spilling all the tea about your family drama and your bad habit of leaving socks on the floor or your childhood bullies, all on the first date. It’s only about not deliberately censoring, manipulating, or exaggerating your true self to make yourself seem more desirable by pretending to be something you aren’t.
Example: When you meet someone or when you’re with someone, don’t be like, “I wake up every morning and go for a run. I go to the animal shelter and volunteer for two hours” if you don’t do that.
Don’t tell someone you’re a chocolate person when in reality, you prefer vanilla. Don’t pretend to be a social butterfly when you’re a homebody. Don’t say you’re okay with smoking and alcohol if you’re not, or that their busy work schedule isn’t going to be a problem if it is.
So as you can see, the direct train goes both ways. Don’t pretend to be something you aren’t and don’t pretend to be okay with what someone else is if you aren’t.
2. Don’t Commit To Potential
What do I mean by “don’t commit to potential”? It’s one of the great relationship problems. Sometimes, we pretend to be okay with something that a person says or does or is because we’re hoping or expecting that that specific attribute of theirs will change. Sometimes, it can.
Example: I’m not typically someone who likes going out a lot. But if the person I was with enjoyed going out more than I do, there’s a chance I’d start enjoying it more too. But I wouldn’t want them to commit to the idea that someday I will. If I meet someone who says they don’t ever want to get married while I do, I shouldn’t commit to the idea that they will change their minds one day.
So, how do you avoid committing to potential? You ask questions, and you honestly evaluate the answers and follow actions. Acknowledge someone’s true colors and decide if their color palette matches yours. If it doesn’t, be honest, even if it sucks because it might go against what you had hoped.
Don’t look for a project to turn into a suitable partner. That doesn’t mean that you should look for perfect and perfectly align with you from the very start because that’s not really what reality looks like. We will get to that later, but today’s person should align with the person you are today. You don’t align with who they could be or who you could be.
3. Don’t Expect More
Expecting more is a big problem in the relationship. Now on that note, let’s talk about expectations and compromise. If you’re looking for someone who will match every single one of your 100 bullet point list of a dream mate, you’ll be searching forever. If you do happen to stumble upon them, run.
There will always be things that could be better. There will always be annoying things. There will always be different perspectives, opinions, and ideas. There will always be disagreements because we’re other people.
Let’s say you’re 25 and meet someone who’s also 25. It means that you each are bringing 25 whole years of experience to the table. It includes everything from your childhood and upbringing to every friendship and relationship. It’s a beautiful thing, but also complicated.
You can only share your memories and get some good feelings with your partner. It’s a natural gift, and be happy with what you get and what you have. Never expect more because it ruins your relationship and happiness.
4. Do Compromise
Compromising is one of the great ways to fix a broken relationship. There’s a healthy compromise and an unhealthy compromise. There’s the perfectly reasonable compromise, and there is the little compromise.
The only people who ultimately decide what those things are, are you and the person. Now, some people are very reluctant to compromise. I call it under-compromise. “I refuse to stop leaving my dirty socks on the floor, and it’s who I am, accept it or leave it.” Or “I can’t remember to kiss you goodnight every night even though it would make you happy, I’m not that person.”
Then there are the people who are too prone to compromise, where they completely lose themselves. I call it over-compromise. “I’m going to stop talking to everyone in my family so that I can spend all my time with you.”There will be times when over-compromising is necessary. Someone might get sick, lose their job, or have a few bad days.
There will also be times when someone will under-compromise. Someone might not feel like it, or they might be going through something. That’s what a relationship is. There will be ups. There will be downs, and there will be highs, there will be lows.
5. Don’t Be Hopeless
How do you rebuild a broken relationship? Every relationship has some problems. Endings are not failures. Sometimes, things end. It’s part of life. Not all items are forever. Does that mean we failed? Did you fail? Did they fail? Each to their own, but that’s not how I see it.
Sometimes life gives us opportunities to learn and to grow. Even to create memories and stories. We should do our best to learn to embrace it, even if they come in a way we hadn’t expected.
On that note, let’s end this chat session with a quote that I like. It’s by Emery Allen, and it goes like this: “Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting.
Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.”
6. Know Yourself
Before fixing your broken relationship, you should know yourself properly. You have a dead relationship sometimes because you don’t know yourself. It may not be the other person or because you guys move somewhere or because it’s a different thing or you move to a different job or don’t know yourself.
So to love somebody else, you have first to love yourself. Do you know what you want out of life? Do you know the career path or the business you want to start? The type of food you want is crucial because sometimes you can get with people and whatever they do. You begin to do because it’s like they’re around you all the time.
So first of all, know yourself. A perfect could be irritating you because you’ll feel controlled by them, but it’s not that they’re holding you. You don’t know what you’re doing. So go on a journey and find yourself.
What’re the exercises that you like to do? If you don’t know these things about yourself, you’re going to feel like the person is making you sick. You don’t want to be around you, and it makes the relationship date, and it’s you.
7. Understand The Love Language
You can easily handle your relationship and fix it if you know the love language. Everybody has a different way of showing love, and everybody has the other form of one thing that loves to be received back to them. Here’s an example me and my partner are very different but still very similar to our love languages.
So my boyfriend likes affection. He wants to touch and words of encouragement and love. I love him by writing beautiful stories on a card, and he loves to feel. My love language is different from his even though love and affection.
The touching and words are essential to me. Most important to me is quality time, and give those are the top two on my list. So quality time spent with you makes me feel like you love me.
I love to feel touched, and for some people, there can be an act of kindness instead of doing the dishes. Your wife is doing the dishes, or your girlfriend is doing the dishes. You’re doing it for her. It makes her say, oh my god, he loves me.
I have so much to do around the house that he did these things, or she mowed the lawn for you. I recommend a book called the five love languages, or you can listen to the audio for free on YouTube.
8. Regular Date
Many people don’t communicate how they feel about what they’re going through in their personal growth within a relationship. When you’re in a relationship, you’re around somebody all the time. So they’re like your best friend.
So the thing is you want to communicate with them. Tell them how you’re feeling. Sometimes, people do things that hurt us that they don’t know it’s hurting us.
They intentionally do not do it, and if you don’t tell them what it is, communicate with them that these things are rubbing you the wrong way. They’ll continue to do it, and it will make things go dead.
You’ll run out on your relationship, talk to other men inventing in your relationship, tell people your business, talk bad down on your partner, and make it even worse. You have to go to your partner and say, listen, I don’t really like it when I make dinner, and you come in rolling around at 10 p.m.
It’s cold, and I have to have dinner by myself. It makes me feel unappreciative or unappreciated. It makes me feel like you don’t care or want to spend this time with me.
9. Improve Your Physical Relation
Your body connects with your mate when you are in a physical relationship. It is excellent for everything for releasing stress for connecting what your mate. So many things I encourage you to do with your partner. Have sex regularly, at least three times a week.
We should have sex every day three times. A crazy day it’s not realistic, but some people have kids. You can’t do things often, but make it a habit to schedule it to get sexy for your man. It is important to connect with people because you look at them and feel their energy when sex. It makes your relationship healthy and solves your silly problems.
10. Pray Together
How to repair a relationship when trust is broken? Do some form of meditation some yoga. Go to church, get down on your knees, talk to God, talk to Allah, and talk if you’re a Buddhist, whatever spiritual practice you do. Do something when you give back to each other. Go and volunteer, help some older people and donate some money.
Do something for a good cause, anything that will help your spirit evolve and grow anything more prominent than you connect pray together. Keep your mind fresh, and it will keep you energetic and joyful.
11. Do Something New
Do something that you guys have never done before together. You can do anything like maybe you pickup guard some guitar lessons, go in a kayak, you have never done it. Do it together, go and paint together, do something that you can learn and do as a hobby.
It will be fantastic. Try salsa dancing anything new to both of you because you’re going to laugh about it when you make mistakes. You’re going even to laugh and smell about what you did get its successes.
12. Don’t Be A Jerk
Relationship advice is severe because it depends where you’re at in your relationship, whether you’re happy with it whether you’re unhappy with it. You’ve been with somebody for a long time or not, but there are some probably universal things that you can keep in mind to create a greater love connection.
I frankly joy and acceptance and vibrancy and sensuality in your relationship. Please think twice and try to be cool in a complicated matter. You can solve any problem if you are a calm person.
13. Practice Positive Projection
Practice optimistic projection. What does that mean is? It would be best to assume the best about your partner, project positive traits and ideas on them, and presume that they are doing their best.
They are thinking of you, believe that they are trying to do things for you. It is tough, especially if you’ve been in a relationship a long time, because you’ve probably already discounted me and this article because of that piece of advice.
Example: You will say – You don’t understand my person is always an idiot, my person is still trying to do this to me. They’re always trying to do that to me. I don’t know your situation. That could be true, but we know that relationship science is a science, and you can study communication.
You can learn how people connect in their intimacy in their relationships in their marriages. You repeatedly see that one partner often says something to their other partner.
The person completely blows up in their mind with this big story about how this other person is trying to control them. How this other person is belittling them is condescending is hurting them. But when you look at the transcripts of their conversation, you see that the partner over here said something very matter-of-factly.
Often in conflicts, the person who’s the angriest can’t remember what the other person even said. They can’t recall the exact words. They said, well, they made me feel this way, and the reality is that person didn’t say anything that would from a third-party standpoint cue.
Those emotions would cue that frustration or that anger. But what we all do is take what’s upset us in the past. We take our old patterns, beliefs, and old hurts and old pains. So, as a rule, the best thing I feel that we can do in our relationships is to practice positive projection.
14. Learn To Listen to Longer
We have to do is to learn to listen longer. People say to be a better listener. Well, the essence of being a better listener is to listen longer. See, respect is a demonstration of hearing a little longer. I think we have to train ourselves to be more patient with people to listen to them without trying to solve their issues, input our own story, and figure out the root.
This is a man right when I listen to somebody, especially a female, and she’s upset about something, or she’s venting about something, or she’s complaining about something that she’s very frustrated with it.
Example: it comes to me, and it’s easy. I get up and like I want to solve it. I want to stop the noise. But that is not any way for me to deepen my relationships. We have to allow people to vent at us a little longer without losing our patience, matter of fact, some of my best friends in the world.
I tell them the 20-minute listening challenge when they get home when their spouse comes up to them and starts sharing about the day and wants to talk about many things. I tell them the weather that storm for 20 minutes listens for 20 minutes.
Try not to solve anything. Try to reflect on what they’re saying or even be quiet. let them go, and what the funniest thing is after about 20 minutes, almost everybody runs out of
gas.
15. Escape Together
We have to do to maintain a great relationship. we got to escape together. Every week you should go on a date night or every other week, and you should every three months disappear. If you’ve read the charge or a lot of my work, I tell people that we say the 90-day challenge, which is every 90 days you and your partner.
Go somewhere, give the kids to somebody, and do not give against the grandparents to the neighbors to the babysitter. Whatever you do, go away for two or three days. Those two or three days are vital. You can’t do them at home.
You could go to a hotel and go on vacation together. But every 90 days, you got to schedule it and disappear together where the two of you are not working, you are not with the kids. You can do that, but not everybody can do that. I’m like, no, everybody can do that.
If you think about it in three months, if you can’t take two to three days off with the person you love, then what kind of life have you set up for yourself? We have a significant amount of control over our lives, a tremendous amount of choices and decisions. We get to choose what we are doing and set up our time. So irresponsibly that you can’t take two to three days off every 90 days, then it’s time to reclaim your life plan.
It’s time to look at yourself, and it’s time to look at your relationship. If your relationship isn’t significant enough to give it a couple of days, you may be in the wrong relationship.
16. Stay In Job In The Relationship
It’s vital to stay in your job in a relationship. I don’t mean by your employment. You can quit your job but don’t stop the relationship. What’s your career in a relationship?
It’s to love, and it’s so easy to forget that because we get mad at somebody, and they didn’t run the task, enter the garbage, or take out the dishes. I got it backward, but they forgot something, and we get mad at them when we forget our job there is to love.
If you’re going to choose love over choosing your past, we’re going to choose love over fear or hurt or pain or choose love or being right, and then you’re going to start to find something that switches in that relationship. It’s a good thing, see most people aren’t choosing love. They’re choosing fear and aren’t choosing to love their hurt. They’re not approaching the ratios with the intention of love.
If you can approach your relationship with the intention of love, joy, acceptance, compassion, empathy, vibrancy, and sensuality to this relationship, you’re bringing negative stuff that relationship will suddenly start to turn positive.
17. Most Important Person Paradox
It is a concept that I started using as my motto in my relationship about six months ago. It affects the quality of my relationship. It is the concept that the person you are with your partner is the person you have chosen. They should be the most critical person in your life, yet we often treat them in the opposite for hate.
We treat our partners as though they are an emotional punching bag because we go out into the world. We have so much stress going on with our friends or our family.
We bring those stresses home with us, and because our partner is that one person that’s always there, we end up snapping at them. We end up taking out all of that anger and stress on them. I’ve been so severely guilty of this for the longest time. I used to come home and be so stressed and annoyed.
I would take it all out on my partner even when my partner wasn’t the person causing it, and then I read an article one day. It mentioned this concept: when we first fall in love with someone, we talked about them being the most important. We preach the idea that our partner is the most crucial person in our lives, but we don’t live by it as though it’s valued.
We tend to treat our partners as though they are the least essential person in our lives. We are often more pleasant and generous and kind to a total stranger on the street or someone from the office at work that we barely know.
We are to this person that we call the most crucial person in our life. So talk through your issues with them. You don’t need to hide your stress from your partner.
18. Understand The Value Of Life & Time
People come to me and tell me how miserable they are in their relationships. They can’t think of any happy times they’ve had and don’t feel satisfied. They don’t feel satisfied with some people. Intimacy has been gone for years for some people.
They’ve tried to get it back, and it’s gone, and when I speak to these people, they seem almost resolved to the fact that this is the life they’ve chosen. They need to stay on this path now, even though this relationship makes them so deeply unhappy. Time is so limited, and we only get one chance at life.
We can always make more money, but we can never make more time if you consider more emphasis and value. We put on money then but on time, highlighting that our values are so screwed up in this modern culture.
I’m sure a lot of you have heard of the analogy of time as money, and they’re around 86,000 seconds in a single day, and if that would be 86 thousand dollars that were put into your bank account each day.
You wouldn’t waste it. You would do nothing with it. You would use it. You would value it, so why don’t you value your time? Why do you let the day when the hours, weeks, months, and years slip away to a relationship draining you emotionally, spiritually, and physically?
It doesn’t matter that you committed to that relationship and if it’s a marriage or you have children. You don’t know how long you have been on this earth. You don’t know if perhaps today is your last day. Do you want to spend it being miserable? Do you want to spend it squeezing the most out of every second of time that you’ve got on this earth that you will never get back?
I don’t waste much time arguing with my partner anymore about petty things. Now I’m not going to lie, my partner and I still argue, but we don’t argue about all the little things.
19. Be There For Each Other
Be there for each other when things become challenging. It’s essential to be there for each other and be empathetic with your partner. It can be comfortable being open and vulnerable with you. It makes you bond together so much stronger.
You should give support when your partner is tense and unhappy. By providing inspiration and support, you can easily win their heart. Your partner don’s want to lose you and try to support you in the wrong situation. It can fix your early relationship problems.
20. Make Time For Date Nights
It’s essential, and that is making time for date nights. Because in long-term relationships, it’s easy to find things so much easier and no longer feels the need to want to go out or do dates. You’ve already bagged the fantastic person that you needed.
But going out on dates is an excellent reminder of when you first started dating each other and what sparked your interest in each other. So try to find a weekly or at least a monthly date night that you guys can stick to with each other.
21. Grow Together
If you don’t grow together, you will grow apart for any couple looking for long-term success. It’s important to grow together. Over time your interests and ambitions can change. See how you’re both feeling from time to time.
Don’t forget that you have a friendship in your cute relationship. Basically, without a company, there is no relationship. You are the best friend for your partner and make yourself a friend. Give your partner freedom and space that they identify themself correctly.
22. Find Time For Fun
Couples who have fun and laugh together have some of the most vital relationships. It’s essential to find time to have that fun together, and it could be something simple like a game of minigolf. Go into karaoke and bar, go into the beach, or your usual date night.
A relationship is like a business without fun, and it seems boring. Everybody likes fun and wants to laugh. If you are a funny person and try to laugh with your partner, you are the right person for a relationship.
23. Allow Time For Yourself
You may want to spend every waking moment with your partner. It’s essential to allow yourself the time you can spend on your own for yourself and your partner. It’s about creating a healthy balance. Having your hobbies and interests apart can be an excellent thing for the relationship.
You can spend alone to discover your desire and find relationship problems. Make your dream come true and try hard to make your life beautiful. Don’t always think about the relationship or something boring. Think something interesting and exciting. Do it when you get free time and make a particular day.
24. Argue Better
You’re going to be stunned by this one, but arguing better will stay with me. It’s perfectly natural for all relationships that have arguments at times. We know this, and you can’t expect two people who spend that much time
together always to see eye-to-eye.
The key in a healthy relationship is to argue effectively without being nasty, so speak from the heart with kindness and love whilst discussing your point. Don’t say things that you will never be able to take back.
25. Be Understanding Of Each Other
Everyone is different, and you and your partner may express yourselves in very different ways. So try to learn and understand how each other express and communicate themselves, better known as the love language. You can talk openly about a subject doesn’t mean that your partner feels as comfortable to do.
So by learning the best way to communicate with each other, you’d be able to have a more open and honest conversation with each other. Always try to understand your partner and find the main reason or problems that affect your relationship.
Conclusion
I hope you find your relationship problem solution. If you have any questions or problems, then feel free to ask me or comment here. I’m waiting for your response and message. Please share this article with your friends to solve their relationship problems.
I wish you a happy relationship and a happy new life! Go forward and find the original path daily. Enjoy every moment of your life.
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