Relationship Problem & Solution: How To Fix A Broken Relationship? I’m so excited because we are talking about love and relationships. We are going to talk about some relationship goals that will make your love grow stronger. Because no matter, if you happen to be in the lovey-dovey relationship as time goes on the bond, doesn’t break. But things can get a bit boring, especially when we have routines.
Relationships are complicated and sometimes confusing because humans are unpredictable. We don’t always know what we’re doing or what we want. And then we’re supposed to merge with another person of this species and have it all work together seamlessly.
We’ll be getting into all of that. So, I’ve found that most articles I see on the topic of relationships focus on things to be aware of in the other person. And not so many things to be mindful of within ourselves. It’s easy to point fingers at others, the things that we expect from them, the things that are wrong with them.
25 Relationship Problems & Solutions
How about things with you? I want to focus on both because they’re equally important. I specifically want to focus on 25 ideas or best relationship advice, that I’ve come to learn. Those things are:
1. Be Honest From The Beginning
We’re animals. We see a potential mate, and we do what we can to attract them. We may not puff out our chest or lift our arms as some other species do. Instead, we try to look and behave our very best, as one should. We all like to see someone put in the effort. But there’s a difference between putting your best foot forward and putting afoot ahead that isn’t even yours.
How can a person be honest? Honesty isn’t about spilling all the tea about your family drama and your bad habit of leaving socks on the floor or your childhood bullies, all on the first date. It’s only about not deliberately censoring, manipulating or exaggerating your true self to make yourself seem more desirable by pretending to something you aren’t.
Example: When you meet someone or when you’re with someone, don’t be like “I wake up at 6 every morning and go for a run. I go to the animal shelter and volunteer for two hours” if you don’t do that.
Don’t tell someone you’re a chocolate person when in reality you prefer vanilla. Don’t pretend to be a social butterfly when you’re a homebody. Don’t say you’re okay with smoking and alcohol if you’re not, or that their busy work schedule isn’t going to be a problem if it is.
So as you can see, the direct train goes both ways. Don’t pretend to be something that you aren’t, and don’t pretend to be okay with what someone else is if you aren’t.
2. Don’t Commit To Potential
What do I mean by “don’t commit to potential”? It’s one of the great relationship problems. Sometimes, we pretend to be okay with something that a person says or does or is, because we’re hoping or expecting that that specific attribute of theirs will change. And sometimes, it can.
Example: I’m not typically someone who likes going out a lot. But if the person I was with enjoyed going out more than I do, there’s a chance I’d start enjoying it more too. But I wouldn’t want them to commit to the idea that someday I will. If I meet someone who says they don’t ever want to get married while I do, I shouldn’t commit to the idea that one day they will change their mind.
So, how do you avoid committing to potential? You ask questions, and you honestly evaluate the answers and the actions that follow. Acknowledge someone’s true colours and decide if their colour palette matches with yours. If it doesn’t, be honest, even if sucks because it might go against what you had hoped.
Don’t look for a project to turn into a suitable partner. That doesn’t mean that you should look for someone who is perfect and that perfectly aligns with you from the very start, because that’s not really what reality looks. We will get to that later, but the person that you are today should align with the person that they are today. You don’t align with who they could be, or who you could be.
3. Don’t Expect More
Expecting more is a big problem in the relationship. Now on that note, let’s talk about expectations and compromise. If you’re looking for someone who is going to match every single one of your 100 bullet point list of a dream mate, you’ll be searching forever. And if you do happen to stumble upon them, run.
There will always be things that could be better. There will always be annoying things. There will always be different perspectives and opinions, and ideas. There will always be disagreements because we’re other people.
Let’s say you’re 25 and you meet someone who’s also 25. It means that you each are bringing 25 whole years of experiences to the table. It includes everything from your childhood and your upbringing to every single friendship and relationship. It’s a beautiful thing, but also complicated.
You can only share your memories and get some good feelings with your partner. It’s a natural gift and be happy what you get and what you have. Never expect more because it ruins your relationship and happiness.
4. Do Compromise
Compromising is one of the great ways to fix a broken relationship. I think there’s a healthy kind of compromise and an unhealthy kind of compromise. There’s the perfectly reasonable compromise, and there is the little compromise.
The only people who ultimately decide what those things are, are you and the person. Now, some people are very reluctant to compromise. I call it under-compromise. “I refuse to stop leaving my dirty socks on the floor, it’s who I am, accept it or leave it.” Or “I can’t remember to kiss you goodnight every night even though I know it would make you happy, I’m not that kind of person.”
And then there are the people who are too prone to compromise, where they completely lose themselves. I call it over-compromise. “I’m going to stop talking to everyone in my family so that I can spend all my time with you.” And I think what I’ve learned is that, in any relationship, there will be times when over-compromising is necessary. Someone might get sick or lose their job or have a few bad days.
There will also be times when someone will under-compromise. Someone might not feel like it, or they might be going through something. That’s what a relationship is. There will be ups. There will be downs, and there will be highs, there will be lows.
5. Don’t Be Hopeless
How do you rebuild a broken relationship? Every relationship has some problems. Endings are not failures. You know sometimes, things end. It’s part of life. Not all items are forever. Does that mean we failed? Did you fail? Did they fail? Each to their own, but that’s not how I see it.
Sometimes life gives us opportunities to learn and to grow. And even to create memories and stories. And we should do the best we can to learn to embrace it, even if they come in a way that we hadn’t expected.
On that note, let’s end this chat session with a quote that I like. It’s by Emery Allen, and it goes like this: “Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting.
Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.”
6. Know Yourself
Before fixing your broken relationship, you should know yourself properly. You have a dead relationship sometimes because you don’t know yourself. It may not be the other person or you know because you guys move somewhere or because it’s a different thing or you move to a different job, or you don’t know yourself.
So to love somebody else, you have first to love yourself. Do you know what you want out of life? Do you know the career path or the business that you want to start? The type of food that you want to this is crucial because sometimes you can get with people and whatever they do. You begin to do because it’s just like they’re around you all the time.
So first of all, know yourself. A perfect could be irritating you because you’ll feel controlled by them, but it’s not that they’re holding you. You don’t know what you’re. So go on a journey and find yourself.
What’re the exercises that you like to do? If you don’t know these things about yourself, you’re going to feel like the person is making you sick. You don’t want to be around you, and it makes the relationship date, and it’s you.
7. Understand The Love Language
You can easily handle your relationship and fix it if you know the love language. Everybody has a different way of showing love, and everybody has the other form of one thing that loves to be received back to them. Here’s an example me and my partner are very different but still very similar to us love languages.
So my boyfriend likes affection, he wants to touch and words basically of encouragement and love. I love him, it’s by writing beautiful stories in a card, and he loves to feel. My love language is different from his even though love and affection.
The touching and words are essential to me. What’s most important to me is quality time and give those are the top two on my list. So quality time spending quality time with you it’s what makes me feel like you love me.
I love to feel touch and some people there can be an act of kindness instead of doing the dishes. Your wife is doing the dishes or your girlfriend doing the dishes you’re doing it for her. It makes her say oh my god, he loves me.
I have so much to do around the house that he did these things or she mowed the lawn for you. There’s a book that I recommend it’s called the five love languages or you can listen to the audio for free on YouTube.
8. Regular Date
A lot of people don’t communicate how they feel the things that they’re going through with them inside themselves their personal growth within a relationship. When you’re in a relationship, you’re around somebody all the time. So they’re kind of like your best friend.
So the thing is you want to communicate with them. Tell them how you’re feeling. Sometimes there are things that people do that hurting us that they don’t know that it’s hurting us.
They intentionally do not do it, and if you don’t tell them what it is and communicate with them that these things are rubbing you the wrong way. They’ll continue to do it, and it will make things go dead.
You’ll run out on your relationship talking to other men inventing in your relationship and telling people your business and talking bad down on your partner, making it even worse. You have to do is go to your partner and say listen I don’t really like when I make dinner, and you come in rolling around at 10 p.m.
It’s cold, and I have to have dinner by myself. It makes me feel unappreciative or unappreciated. It makes me feel like you don’t care or you don’t want to spend this time with me.
9. Improve Your Physical Relation
Your body connects with your mate when you are in physical relation. It is excellent for just everything for releasing stress for connecting what your mate. So many things I encourage you to do this with your partner have sex regularly at least three times a week.
We should have sex every day three times. A crazy day it’s not realistic, but some people have kids. You can’t do things some so often but make it a habit schedule it in you know get sexy for your man. It is so important is how you connect with people because you look at them and you feel their energy when you have sex. It makes your relationship healthy and solves your silly problems.
10. Pray Together
How to repair a relationship when trust is broken? Do some form of meditation some yoga. Go to church get down on your knees and talk to God, talk to Allah, talks if you’re a Buddhist whatever spiritual practice that you do. Do something when you give back with each other. Go and volunteer, help some older people and donate some money.
Just do something for a good cause anything that’s going to help your spirit evolve and grow anything more prominent than you connect pray together. Keep fresh your mind, and it will keep you energetic and joyful.
11. Do Something New
Do something that you guys have never done before together. You can do anything like maybe you pickup guard some guitar lessons, go in a kayak, you have never done it. Do it together, go and you know paint together, do something that you both can learn, and you can do as a hobby.
It will be fantastic. Try salsa dancing just anything new to both of you because you’re going to laugh about it when you make mistakes. You’re going even to laugh and smell about the things that you did get the successes of it.
12. Don’t Be A Jerk
I think relationship advice is severe because it just depends where you’re at in your relationship whether you’re happy with it whether you’re unhappy with it. You’ve been with somebody for a long time or not, but I think there are some probably you know universal things that you can keep in mind to create greater love connection.
I just frankly joy and acceptance and vibrancy and sensuality in your relationship. Please think twice and try to be cool in a complicate matter. You can solve any problem if you are a calm person.
13. Practice Positive Projection
Practice optimistic projection what that means is? It would be best if you were assuming the best about your partner and projecting positive traits and ideas on them presume that they are doing their best.
They are thinking of you, believe that they are trying to do things for you. It is the tough one especially if you’ve been in a relationship a long time because you’ve probably already discounted me and this article just because of that piece of advice.
Example: You will say – You don’t understand my person is always an idiot, my person is still trying to do this to me. They’re always trying to do that to me. I don’t know your situation that could be true but what we do know from relationship science and it is a science, and you can study communication.
You can learn the different ways that people connect in their intimacy in their relationships in their marriages. You see over and over again that often one partner says something to their other partner.
The person completely blows up in their mind with this big story about how this other person is trying to control them. How this other person is belittling them is condescending is hurting them. But when you look at the transcripts of their conversation, you see that the partner over here really just said something very matter-of-factly.
Often in conflicts, the person who’s the angriest can’t remember what the other person even said. They can’t recall the exact words. They just said well they made me feel this way, and the reality is that person didn’t say anything that would from a third party standpoint cue.
Those emotions would cue that frustration or that anger. But what we all do is we take what’s upset us in the past. We take our old patterns our old beliefs, our old hurts and old pains. So as a rule, the best thing I feel that we can do in our relationships is to practice positive projection.
14. Learn To Listen to Longer
We have to do is to learn to listen longer. People say to be a better listener. I say well the essence of being a better listener is to listen longer. See respect is just a demonstration of hearing a little longer. I think what we have to do is the train on ourselves to be more patient with people to listen to them without trying to solve their issue without trying to input our own story without trying to figure out the root.
I know this as a man right when I listen to somebody especially a female, and she’s upset about something, or she’s venting about something, or she’s complaining about something that she’s very frustrated with it.
Example: it comes to me, and it’s easy. I get up and like I want to solve it. I want to stop the noise. But that is not any way for me to deepen my relationships. What we have to do is allow people to vent at us a little longer without losing our patience matter of fact some of my best friends in the world.
I tell them the 20-minute listening challenge when they get home when their spouse comes up to them and start sharing about the day and wants to talk about a bunch of things. I tell them the weather that storm for 20 minutes listens for 20 minutes.
Try not to solve anything, try to reflect what they’re saying or even be quiet. let them go, and what the funniest thing is after about 20 minutes almost everybody runs out of
15. Escape Together
We have to do to maintain a great relationship. we got to escape together. I mean every week you should go on a date night or every other week, and you should every three months disappear. I tell people if you’ve read the charge or a lot of my work we say you know the 90-day challenge which is every 90 days you and your partner.
Go somewhere give the kids to somebody, and no give against the grandparents to the neighbours to the babysitter whatever you do go away for two or three days. Those two or three days are vital. You can’t do them at home.
You could go to a hotel and go on vacation together. But every 90 days you got to schedule it and disappear together where the two of you are not working, you are not with the kids. You can do that, but not everybody can do that I’m like no everybody can do that.
If you think about it in three months if you can’t take two to three days off with the person, you love then what kind of life you have set up for yourself? We have a significant amount of control over our lives, a tremendous amount of choices and decision. We get to choose what are we doing with our time and if you set up your time. So irresponsibly that you can’t take two to three days off every 90 days, then it’s time to reclaim your life plan.
It’s time to look at yourself, and it’s time to look at your relationship. If your relationship isn’t significant enough to give it a couple of days then maybe you’re in the wrong relationship.
16. Stay In Job In The Relationship
It’s vital to stay in your job in a relationship. I don’t mean by your employment. You can quit your job but don’t stop the relationship. What’s your career in a relationship?
It’s to love, and it’s so easy to forget that because we get mad at somebody and they didn’t run the task or enter the garbage or take out the dishes. I think I got it backwards, but they forgot something, and we get mad at them when we forget our job there is to love.
If you’re going to choose love over choosing your past we’re going to choose love over fear or hurt or pain or choose love or being right then you’re going to start to find something switches in that relationship. It’s a good thing, see most people aren’t choosing love. They’re choosing fear and aren’t choosing to love their hurt. They’re not approaching the ratios with the intention of love.
If you can approach your relationship with the intention of love, joy, acceptance, compassion, empathy, vibrancy and sensuality to this relationship than you’re bringing negative stuff that relationship will suddenly start to turn positive.
17. Most Important Person Paradox
It is a concept that I started using as my motto in my relationship about six months ago. It affects the quality of my relationship. It is the concept that the person you are with your partner that person that you have chosen. They should be the most critical person in your life, and yet so often we treat them in the opposite for hate.
We treat our partner as though they are an emotional punching bag because we go out into the world. We have so much stress that’s going on with our friends or our family.
We bring those stresses home with us and because our partner is that one person that’s always there we end up snapping at them. We end up taking out all of that anger and all of that stress on them I’ve been so severely guilty of this for the longest time. I used to come home and be so stressed and annoyed.
I would take it all out on my partner even when my partner wasn’t the person that was causing it and then I was reading an article one day. It mentioned this concept the idea that when we first fall in love with someone, we talked about them being the most important person. We preach that idea that our partner is the most crucial person in our lives, but we don’t live by it as though it’s valued.
We tend to treat our partner as though they are the least essential person in our life. We quite often are more pleasant and generous and kind to a total stranger on the street or someone from the office at work that we barely know.
We are to this person that we call the most crucial person in our life. So talk through your issues with them. You don’t need to hide your stress from your partner.
18. Understand The Value Of Life & Time
I have people come to me and tell me how miserable they are in their relationships. They can’t think of any happy times that they’ve had and they don’t feel satisfied. They don’t feel satisfied with some people. Intimacy has been gone for years for some people.
They’ve tried to get it back, and it’s just gone, and when I speak to these people, they seem almost resolved to the fact that this is the life they’ve chosen. They need to stay on this path now even though this relationship makes them so deeply unhappy. Time is so limited, and we only get one chance at life.
We can always go and make more money, but we can never make more time and if you consider how much more emphasis and value. We put on money then we but on time that highlights the fact that we have our values so screwed up in this modern culture.
I’m sure a lot of you have heard of the analogy of time as money, and they’re around 86,000 seconds in a single day and if that would be 86 thousand dollars that were put into your bank account each day.
You wouldn’t waste it. You wouldn’t just do nothing with it. You would use it you would value it so then why don’t you value your time? Why do you let the day is the hours weeks months and years slip away to a relationship that is draining you emotionally, spiritually and physically?
It doesn’t matter that you committed to that relationship and if it’s a marriage or you have children. You don’t know how long you have on this earth. You don’t know if perhaps today is your last day. Do you want to spend it being miserable? Do you want to spend it squeezing the most out of every second of time that you’ve got on this earth that you will never get back?
I don’t waste so much time arguing with my partner anymore about petty things. Now I’m not going to lie my partner, and we still argue, but we don’t argue about all the little things.
19. Be There For Each Other
Be there for each other when things become challenging. It’s essential to be there for each other and being empathetic with your partner. It can be comfortable being open and vulnerable with you. It makes you bond together so much stronger.
You should give support when your partner is tense and unhappy. By providing inspiration and support, you can easily win his/her heart. Your partner don’s want to lose you and try to support you in the wrong situation. It can fix your early relationship problems.
20. Make Time For Date Nights
I think it’s essential and that is making time for date nights. Because in long-term relationships, it’s easy to find things so much easier and no longer feels the need to want to go out or do dates. You’ve already bagged the fantastic person that you needed.
But going out on dates is an excellent reminder of when you first started dating each other and what sparked your interest in each other. So try to find a weekly or at least a monthly date night that you guys can stick to with each other.
21. Grow Together
If you don’t grow together, you will grow apart and for any couple looking for long-term success. It’s important to grow together over time your interests and ambitions can change. And see how you’re both feeling from time to time.
Don’t forget that you have a friendship in your cute relationship. Basically, without a company, there is no relationship. You are the best friend for your partner and make yourself as a friend. Give your partner freedom and space that she/he identifies themself correctly.
22. Find Time For Fun
Couples who have fun and can laugh together have some of the most vital relationships. It’s essential to find time to have that fun together, and it could be something simple like a game of minigolf. Go into karaoke, and bar go into the beach or just your usual date night.
A relationship is like a business without fun, and it seems boring. Everybody likes fun and want to laugh. If you are a funny person and try to laugh with your partner, then you are the right person for a relationship.
23. Allow Time For Yourself
You may want to spend every waking moment with your partner. It’s essential to allow yourself the time that you can spend on your own for you and your partner also. It’s about creating a healthy balance having your hobbies and interests apart from each other can be an excellent thing for the relationship.
You can spend alone to discover your desire and find relationship problems. Make your dream come true and try hard to make your life beautiful. Don’t always think about the relationship or something boring, think something interesting and exciting. Do it when you get free time and make a particular day.
24. Argue Better
You’re going to be stunned by this one but argue better will stay with me. It’s perfectly natural for all relationships that have arguments at times. We know this, and you can’t expect two people who spend that much time
together always to see eye-to-eye.
The key in a healthy relationship is to argue effectively without being nasty, so speak from the heart with kindness and love whilst discussing your point. Don’t say things that you will never be able to take back.
25. Be Understanding Of Each Other
Everyone is different, and you and your partner may express yourselves in very different ways. So try to learn and understand how each other express and communicate themselves better known as the love language. You’re able to talk openly about a subject doesn’t mean that your partner feels as comfortable to do.
So by learning the best way to communicate with each other, you’d be able to have a more open and honest conversation with each other. Always try to understand your partner and find the main reason or problems that affect your relationship.
I hope you find your relationship problem solution. If you any question or problem then feel free to ask me or comment here. I’m waiting for your response and message. Please share this article to your friends that they can also solve their relationship problem.
Wish you a happy relationship and a happy new life! Go forward and find the original path daily, enjoy every moment of your life.
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