Not only humans but all kinds of animals also want love. It’s love that can make various feelings and memory. The attraction hormone forces us to make a relationship or life partner.
So, the relationship is one of the best parts of our life. Sometimes we feel sad about choosing the wrong way. I want to share with you some relationship advice. A relationship can be the most terrible frustrating anger-provoking experience. Or a relationship can be the most beautiful, joyful experience.
40 Ways To Build A Strong & Healthy Relationship
I would invite you to agree always to be who you are not and who you think. Your partner wants you. Before starting a new relationship or making a relationship healthy, you must follow some rules.
Today, I’ll describe the proper way of love and tell you the best relationship advice. Let’s start!
1. Talk To Each Other
Talk about what’s going on in your life. Talk about how you’re feeling if your spouse or partner in your relationship does something upsetting you. Let them know if they do something that you love that they did. Let them know every aspect of communicating through what you’re feeling.
It is so vital. Because, even though you’re feeling something inside, your partner probably doesn’t know unless you vocalize it. You have to realize that even if you and your partner are so similar, you still are very different. You think differently, even like men and women. Our brains are very different sometimes. We have to explain ourselves.
We can’t think they will understand naturally if you don’t speak up. This is where a lot of couples fail. Because maybe they’re too scared to share those things. Because it is hard if something you know is going on in your heart that you’re wrestling with if something’s bothering you.
Maybe they’re doing it can be a little scary to bring it up. But I promise you it is so much healthier if you do and talk it out respectfully on a friendly tone level, especially for women.
For Example, We can tend to bottle up our feelings instead of sharing them, talking them out like an average person. We can get to the point. It’s like- we let it build up and throw it up. Then one day, we’re going to explode. Because we haven’t been talking about it, and then it gets to the point where it’s like- “Why don’t you understand it?” They don’t understand because you never said anything about it.
They’re probably going to repeat doing this. The thing that is upsetting to you is that you never corrected me and never said, “Hey sweetie!” like this, which bothers me. When you do it, would you mind doing this? Bring it to their attention but in a healthy way, instead of at your breaking point.
Praise on each other if your husband came home with groceries one day like my husband sometimes does. I’m unexpected. I let him know, “Honey, I appreciate that so much.”
It means a lot to me that you did that, so communication about everything, about all the positive things, because that’s reassuring. You need that in a relationship. You need to know, “Oh! I’m doing something right. My spouse, my partner, appreciates me.
When times are difficult to talk about, those also to talk about personally that you’re dealing with might not be a struggle in your relationship. But it may be a struggle in your own heart. Hey sweetie! Like I’m dealing with this eternally, only to have that support you offer each other. It’s essential.
2. Keep Things Exciting
It’s so important to go along with our mundane life and get into our routines, our schedules, especially the longer you’ve been married. You see couples who are less affectionate towards each other.
For Example, I may not know almost the routine, “Hey sweetie! Welcome home.” I don’t know if they call each other, sweetie. Maybe they didn’t even ignore each other when they came home from work.
Keep things exciting, whether to celebrate something. It doesn’t have to be a birthday or a holiday. It could be the smallest little thing. But, celebrate it, make it a big deal. Go on trips, schedule little fun vacations even if it’s a day trip. Do something.
It’s fun and exciting that will create a memory. Surprise each other. Harrell and I love to surprise each other, and we think it’s fun. Sometimes, it’s totally like silly small things. But, all of those things keep it exciting and keep it fun.
3. Make A Good Friendship
You guys are partners. Everything you do should never be me versus your situation and should always be about what is best for us as a team.
So, make sure that you’re making your decisions together, even if it’s a decision. Maybe that only pertains to me. I will still talk to my husband about it, always include him in my thought process, and I want to get his input.
Make sure that we’re making all of our decisions together. Make sure that you’re supporting one another. It may not be your dream specifically. Make sure you’re helping them, encouraging them.
You realize that as they’re fulfilling their vision, it’s like for you as well. Because you guys are a team, it’s a good thing to remind each other that you’re on the same team. Sometimes, stuff will happen, and maybe you’ll start arguing about something.
For Example, Take a step back and literally remind each other. Be like “Hey,” like, “We’re on the same team here.” Let’s chill out. No need to get upset with each other. Let’s remember this together, whatever it is. It’s whatever we’re going through. We’re going to do it together. We have to make decisions that positively affect us both. I realize what is best for both of us.
In life, there are always going to be so many obstacles. So many people are telling you, you’re doing it wrong that you’re not good enough, like who knows what so. It is so important to have that one person.
4. Stay Close To God
It is so important, and I’m sincere. Whenever my husband and I have gotten in any fight, we hardly ever fight, or I hate even saying fight argue. I have realized we both learn. After we step back, we always are like, “Why are we even in this crazy argument”?
When we sit back, we look at it, and it’s always because we aren’t as close to God at that moment. We haven’t been intentional with our time with him. So, we’ve been growing farther from God. It changes the way you treat people that change your heart when you do that.
So, it’s so important to stay close to God. When you’re close to God, you’re going live like Jesus. You’re going to love like Jesus. You’re going to treat your spouse so much better. It’s super important to realize that as much as you love your spouse, you think they’re lovely.
They’re not perfect, and they can’t be everything for you. Only God can do if we are not focusing on God and making him the center of our relationship.
For Example, We can get things out of balance. Then we start to put our spouse on a pedestal or maybe not on a pedestal. We expect so much out of them, and when that happens, they’re going to fail us.
They’re not perfect. We need to seek God more than we seek our spouse, which is very hard to do and something that I need to work on every day. I need to work on it currently because it is hard.
It’s hard to be intentional. I have so much more in Grace in my heart when my husband fails me, something that would upset me. When I stay close to God, I get all I need from God. When I’m not close to God, I expect everything from my husband. If he lets me down, you fall apart. Because I haven’t been leaning on God who is- the only thing God never goes letting me down.
5. Learn Love Languages
Be mindful of each other’s love languages and cherish each other knowing each other’s love languages. By this, you’ve never figured out what your love language is. But, all of us express our love differently, and we feel love differently.
You might feel loved by physical touch or something. So, you like when someone hugs you holds your hand. You can feel their love that way, right.
So, you might naturally think that- someone else you’re sharing your love by doing that to them, but for them, they might not feel loved that way. They might feel loved through acts of service.
So, they need you to be serving them in specific ways to feel their love. So, it’s essential to know those things to know the best way to share love.
For Example, Your sauce knows the best way to give love to you so that you feel loved. I hope that made sense. If you haven’t ever learned your love language, I encourage you to take a survey. I’m sure you can find one online or something going along with that.
It is essential to make sure that you make each other feel cherished. It could be little gestures when you know lock eyes with each other, and then you exchange a small smile.
6. Let Things Go
You can let things go now from time to time. You are both going to be annoying each other. It’s one of those things. It might be that your partner has let you down in some way, something so simple as he’s forgotten to fetch the milk, after the fifth time of you reminding him.
What is important here is- Can you let things go? Are you able to go? Yeah, that situation sucked. But it’s not a big deal. Let’s draw the line and get over it.
For Example, A healthy relationship would be people communicating that they feel underwhelmed and disappointed because their partner let them down. But then choose to let it go, and they don’t bring it up time after time after time.
7. Be Intimate Properly
We know that having sex with your partner is a big thing. However, there’s a difference between having sex with someone and being intimate with someone.
For Example, There are entirely different paths you can go down. If you’re close with your partner in and outside the bedroom, then this means you have a healthy relationship.
Remember, strong relationships are built together through bonding sensations of trust, honesty, and friendship. You have anything on the exterior level. Lust and physical attractiveness are the starts of a relationship. That does not mean that you are in a healthy relationship.
8. Ensure The Security
Your relationship is a safe place. Your connection should be this little bubble between you and your partner that- no matter what you go through in the day.
For Example, You can always return home and feel secure and receive loving warmth now. This isn’t to say that- sometimes things won’t go wrong, and you won’t have arguments inside your couple bubble.
However, what I’m trying to get at here is- it’s more important that you go to your partner when times are rough than anybody else. Because let’s face it, if you had a stressful situation.
You never went to your partner to talk about it or to open up and connect in some way. Then, that is not a healthy relationship. Now, this tip ties in very close to what I previously said.
9. Have Your Own Space
We grow up, and we go into more serious relationships. We understand that we don’t have to spend all of our time together like we did when dating our teen boyfriends or teen girlfriends.
So, the most important thing about a healthy relationship is that- you can come together, you can disappear, both go your ways and do your items explore your life. Develop new habits and hobbies.
Then, you can come together and talk about it. If you spend a lot of your time together doing the same things and the same crowd of people, activities, habits, and hobbies, you will eventually dislike the other person. Because you have no space to yourself, and you can’t be a healthy adult unless you have your own space.
10. Be Self Dependable
I have been in relationships before. But I have not fought at all with my partner, and these relationships didn’t last now. It is a healthy thing and not a bad thing. Because, if you don’t fight with your partner, not physical fights, literally you can argue about something if you are not happy. If you cannot voice your opinion and fight with your partner, that means you can’t open up.
For Example, Something’s holding you back, and you could be scared of confrontation and upsetting the other person. You’re happy to suppress your own opinion. You want to let the other person win one over on you. Even they are in the wrong. You want to make sure that you keep the peace. It is a sign that you need to address some form of emotional attachment.
So, in a healthy relationship, having quarrels and disagreements from time to time is a healthy thing. Because it shows that you’ve both have your understanding, you both have your own opinions and minds. That makes you stronger.
Because the other person can think, “Was she’s a high-value lady”? Because if I do something that she doesn’t like, she will tell me and vice versa. But the most important thing here is that if you are in a fight in your argument, you apologize when you are wrong. It is the next level of having a healthy relationship.
11. Be Like Yourself & Partner
You like yourself and your partner exactly how you both are right now if you can both recognize your qualities right now. If you are not hoping for someone to change or waiting for someone to do a sure thing or achieve something for the relationship to get better, then that is healthy. Let me give an example.
For Example, many people feel that- if they have a house that owns the property, their mortgage, or they have another car or have a baby, their relationship dynamic will change, and it will be a lot more secure. But, if you aren’t happy with your relationship right now and you are waiting for something else to improve it, then it’s not healthy, and it means you are not satisfied with the relationship exactly how it is right now.
12. Make Decisions Jointly
Making decisions together is one of the vital components of a healthy relationship. I’m not saying you choose to watch a particular movie every Saturday. Your partner says, “Right, Friday, when I watch what I want to watch.” You need to have joint decisions from choosing how many kids you want to open a mutual bank.
What flavored sauce do you want on your pancakes on Sunday mornings? As long as you both can have a 50/50 opinion, you both listen to eat to the side. Of the story, that is very healthy and very functional.
13. Find Joy
You find joy in a relationship where you are pretty much sad or feel lonely when you are with them than when you’re on your own. That is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
You must be able to laugh with your partner, find jokes, finish each other’s sentences. You must have those quirky, ridiculous, daft sayings and little noises that you make inside relationships.
For Example, You know precisely what I’m on about those types of voices that you put on in the relationship. No one else in the world can see or hear the conversation communication techniques you used. If you don’t have these, it’s a sign the relationship is pretty much Deadwood now.
I’m not saying that you should always be sunshine and rainbows and happy all the time in your relationship. What I’m saying is you feel comfortable with each other. But you can be a little bit childlike from time to time and explore that innocence of being a young person again.
14. Find Balance
You won’t be able to share things fifty-fifty. For example, your partner might be working lots of long hours, which means that you have to pick up the dry-cleaning.
You’re picking him up from work, and you’re doing most of the cooking and cleaning at home because he can’t do it. Now, as long as this is swapped around when you are busy. For example, you have to take care of someone in your family that’s taken a turn for the worse.
Maybe they’re in the hospital, perhaps something’s happened, and you’re expected to go there, then that means your partner deals with more things at home than you usually would.
Now, this is finding balance, and as long as you guys can fifty-fifty split everything and pick up extra work in the house where needed, that is a good healthy relationship.
15. Treat Each Other With Kindness
You should be in a relationship where there’s honesty. You care for each other and love each other unconditionally. You want there to sin to them even if you don’t always agree with what they say no.
Sometimes you find that you don’t say nice things about your partner when they’re not around. You need to take a step back and analyze the relationship you want.
The underlining message here is how much respect you are showing your partner. If you’re always bad-mouthing when you’re not around them, then that’s not good, and that’s not a sign of a healthy relationship. You should always say great things about your partner talk about how amazing they are.
16. Try To Understand Each Other
Communication is the key. Many people are like, “Okay, yeah! You need to communicate”. Maybe, they believe communicating means talking, but it’s not that simple.
Try to understand the other person as much as possible. It allows them to understand you and meet each other half away, as open as possible.
It means what you think, what’s on your mind, and how you’re feeling. It is about putting everything out there on the table. Not playing mind games, not holding things back, not trying to trick the other person or test the other person, and being open and honest.
For Example, many times, especially in a typical heterosexual relationship, men and women tend to see things differently. They think very differently. That is true in my relationship and many of my friends’ relationships.
So you might feel a certain way. You might be upset because of something the other person said or something they did. It might make total sense to you why you’re upset. You feel like you have every reason to feel the way that you’re feeling.
You feel that they should know. You understand that you are upset and why you’re upset. You might not realize that they might not have any idea. Because to them, it wasn’t a big deal, and they don’t get it.
They don’t understand. So, it’s your job as one-half of this relationship to communicate your feelings and thoughts. This is bothering me, and here’s why. It goes both ways.
If you see that your partner is upset, they’re mad at you for something, or you know whatever the case, you don’t understand why you’re not getting it. You do not understand their perspective. You need to open up to them. You have to find out why.
I’ve been guilty of this in the past too many times. When you see what’s wrong, something is bothering you, but you wish that they would already know. People are not mind-readers. Both the person in the relationship needs to be responsible.
You need to stop playing games and be truthful and open. At the same time, both of you need to try to meet each other halfway. Try to understand each other. You should explain how you feel.
17. Be Strong Mentally
Another good tip is to take a step back for a second in a situation where more emotions are involved. You are pissed off and upset. It’s easy to let go of those emotions and go on attack mode and start this big argument.
What do I do when I’m in a situation like that? I take a step back. I have to think to myself, ‘Wait for a second! What is it that’s bothering me?’ Because sometimes, you get so caught up in the emotion that you don’t even realize or remember what it was that set you off.
Try to think about what is bothering you. Why are you feeling this way? Why are you pissed off? Why are you emotional? What do you want? What would make the situation better? What would make me feel better? Once you know what and how to explain yourself to your partner, it’ll make the whole situation better.
Because if they already have no idea that there is a problem or don’t know why you’re upset about something, there will be no solution. You’re coming out with all this emotion, and you can’t communicate to them. The problem is not going to get resolved that way. Yelling and being emotional might escalate the situation to worsen. So, communication is key to going along with that.
18. Be Patience
Never go to sleep being mad at each other. Everybody says that. As soon as something’s bothering you, address it immediately. Don’t let things build up.
In the first year or so of my relationship, oh my god! I feel like every argument we ever got into resulted from me being upset about something, or, you know, whatever my feelings are, getting hurt about something.
I was pushing it off whether it was a big deal or not. Then something else would happen. All these little small things would happen, and eventually, they would build up into significant issues. Because after the first thing, I’d be like, ‘Alright! I’m a little pissed off about that, but whatever!
It’s not a big deal. I’m not going to bring it up. I don’t want to start a fight over something stupid like that.’ The second thing happened, but I’m still thinking about the first thing because that never got resolved.
Now two things have happened that I’m not happy with it. You know the feeling of some way, about then the third thing happens. If you never talk about a problem, it never gets resolved.
It still might be bothering you a little bit deep down. Maybe you don’t even realize it. You maybe think that you forgot about it. Then all of a sudden, something small and stupid sets you off. The little things that have been building up over the past few weeks or months get too much out of hand. You explode.
Your partner has no idea that all these things have been building up inside you. Because you kept pushing it off, and you never told them. Now you’re pissed off and emotional. They think it’s because they forgot to put the toilet seat down. But in reality, it’s about so many other things that happened in the past.
19. Keep Self Confidence
My next tip is about choosing your battles. It is something that I stress to people a lot too. I have a few friends. One friend will always text me, asking my opinion on a specific fight. She will let me know what’s happening between her and her boyfriend.
For Example, it’s so stupid a lot of the time that I don’t even understand why it’s even a fight. You’re not always going to one hundred percent agree with the person. They’re going to do things that annoy you. They’re going to have habits that drive you crazy.
That doesn’t mean that you need to pick apart every little thing they do and fight them over every little thing. Also, the more you’re fighting, the more you’re going to get exhausted. It is going to put a strain on your relationship. Save all of the fightings for the big problems, the real things worth an argument. I should give one specific example.
My friend was fighting with her boyfriend because he would be coming with her to a work party refusing to shave his beard, and she said he looked homeless.
Express your opinion if that’s how you feel, even if he doesn’t want to know. The important thing is that he’s coming with you to this event. The vital part of the fact that he is there to support you?
Is his facial hair that big of a deal? Is it worth fighting? What if this fight escalates so much that he decides to forget it! Am I not even going to come? Would you instead want him to be there supporting you with the beard, or you be alone and him not be there at all? It is essential to choose your battles.
20. Respect Each Other
This is what you learn in preschool. It is to have respect and treat others the way you want to be treated. So, have respect for your partner. This sounds so obvious, and it’s so ridiculous to say.
But I feel like the people who cheat on their partners and do shady, messed up things and betray their partners didn’t respect them. Because if you respected them, you wouldn’t have done those things to them at all. If you don’t respect your partner, your partner is not respectful, and then you should not be together. It is a fundamental and necessary thing.
21. To Have Standards
I have many friends. I’ve seen some of my mom’s friends to where they have low standards for the people they’re in relationships with. Because they feel that they don’t deserve much, they would rather be with someone at all than be alone.
You should have pretty high standards for yourself when it comes to a relationship. You should be with someone who respects you, loves you, and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Someone that you can have fun with.
Someone that you love to be around. However, sometimes some people especially, in the age of social media, get very caught up in fantasy. So, they overlook the good things that they have.
For Example, There are pictures of these perfect beautiful, model-looking couples on Instagram. I feel like many people either because I follow them in real life.
They make their relationships out to be like this perfect, fantastic thing. I’m not going to lie. Sometimes I’m like, wow! Their relationship seems perfect! It seems they never even fight. Maybe, my relationship isn’t as good as I thought it was. But you have to realize that what you see online is an edited version of a relationship.
It’s a fantasy. It’s not real. You can do some self-sabotaging severe if you continue to think that way. Look at the good things you have and appreciate the positive good things! Stop having these unrealistic expectations for your relationship and your partner.
22. Grow Up Your Time Scene
Time is essential for a relationship. What I mean is someone can say, ‘Hey! We’ve known each other for a short amount of time. We want to get married.’
I remember having a couple come to me and saying we want to get married on the first anniversary of our first date, and I said, please know why. For many reasons but one of those reasons is there are some things that only time can reveal.
This is the reality of the time. There are some things only time can reveal. You can say, ‘No, we talk a lot. We have good communication. We share everything.’ That’s neat! But there are some things only time can reveal. The things you talked about in month number 6 are different from those you talked about in month number 16. Deals will be other after a couple of years.
For Example, In my experience, depth is achieved with the gift of time. In a sense, slow down again if you’re the dragging feet person. You’re like, ‘We’ve been dating for seven years.
I’m thinking about marrying this person.’ Well, then it can be the call. They say fish or cut bait, but that’s not what I’m talking about. If you’re the person who’s rushing time, there are some things only time can reveal.
23. Make Your Relationship Old
I work on the university campus. Some students arrive every year. They’ll say things like, hey, what year are you in, and they’ll say, well, technically, I’m a junior. Because I took all these, you know, high school, college classes, but it’s my first year. The response is, ‘Oh! You’re a freshman, got it!’ They’re like, ‘No, I’m a junior like you.
It’s the desire to have a relationship that’s more mature or in a different place than your relationship is. It’s the relationship that says. As I said at the beginning of this article, you know, we’ve only been dating two months, but we knew we were going to get married after the third date.
Now keep in mind, everyone in the brothers will say, ‘Well, my grandparents, they knew right away, or my whoever knew right away.’ That is fine! Whatever maybe I’m wrong.
I’ll get sassy in a second here. But there are some things again that not time will reveal. But there’s something about allowing a two-month-old relationship to be two months old.
Right there’s that something. That’s something good about letting this fourth date be the fourth date. There are some couples that I’ve spoken with who are like ever since the third date. or the third week or whatever it is. We knew we would get married after a year or two. All of a sudden, these issues start arising in their relationship.
They realize they have to deal with it because they didn’t deal with it earlier. They won’t address specific issues because they are getting married anyway. It doesn’t matter if it’s an issue. Again, this is like scolding anyone. It is my encouragement.
For Example, If you’re in a six-month-old relationship, let your relationship be six months old. Let it be two years old if you’re ending for two years. Treat your relationship according to the actual age of the relationship, not where you’d like it to be in the future.
24. Do Work Together
One of the most excellent skills that couples can work on is learning how to solve problems or make decisions.
Because you probably know how to make a decision right. You know that you have the style. You probably figured out that maybe you’re a quick deciding person. You look at the patient like, ‘Oh! I’m going to do this.’
Maybe the statistics on you making the right decision is eighty percent. Eighty percent of the time, you’re happy with the decision, and twenty percent of the time, you regret it. But you’re okay with that. You are satisfied with the ratio. The person you’re dating or married to might be the opposite. They might be slow to make decisions. Sometimes they maybe don’t even make decisions.
For Example, Sometimes they may be the person who says 75 percent. If it can avoid making a decision, resolving itself, you might know someone like this. Maybe you’re someone like this.
They don’t make a decision. Usually, it resolves itself, and things work out. Maybe 25% of the time, it doesn’t work out. Everyone has to scramble to pick up the pieces, but I’m okay with that ratio. If 75% of the time, it’s okay.
In 25%, scramble. Take an 80%, you know, snap judgment, and at 75%, I’ll let it resolve itself. They’ll let them figure out how to fix a question or decide with each other. It’s not impossible. They’re going to need to learn how to do that thing.
25. Take Decisions Properly
If you’re in a relationship, learn how to make decisions together. Learn how to solve problems together and address issues with each other. If you’re not in a relationship right now, you were in a relationship with somebody, maybe have a roommate.
We have a friend or family member that you get to make decisions and make decisions with them. That’s not a bad thing because what you’re doing is you’re developing a skill.
I’m not the only one involved in making this decision. I need to learn how to do that with someone else. Do all of these while being honest, being you, being a loving and charitable person.
26. Trust Each Other
If you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything, and that’s a very cliche term. It’s genuine, but the question is, how do you build your trust? Building your trust is something that happens over time. It doesn’t take a few days or first meeting a person.
It can take many months or even years to trust someone because they’re strangers. So how do you make a stranger? Somebody, you trust begin with communicating.
Communication is everything, and I can not stress it enough. It’s important to talk to the other person. be open and willing to share things about your life, struggles, dreams, desires, fears, past experiences, and many things. You should be ready to be open.
You should also be willing to listen to your other partner. Don’t make it all about yourself. Either a relationship is back and forth equal. There should be a balance between both of you. You also be willing to try out new aspects and new things to test a relationship, test the partner, and test the trust that you guys have, and that’s important.
It’s so easy to communicate through text messages. it’s fantastic to get adorable text messages and long paragraphs, but there’s nothing better than talking face-to-face, telling little bits
and pieces of your life.
27. Don’t Let A Person Define You
Never rely on another person for your happiness. It’s super important to build memories and build a bond with your significant other. Spending time with each other is fine, but there are also limits to that, which could be hard.
Especially when you’re in your honeymoon phase, which from my perspective is like the first six months to a year, you feel like you need to have every waking second with that person, which is fine. Let me tell you, things get old quick, and routines get old quick.
For Example, People get bored and tired, and you start to drift away slowly. So arguing more about dumb little things and the little arguments turn to more significant disasters.
It’s a mess. So it’s crucial sometimes to take a step back and only spend a few, even if it’s like two days or something away from each other. For some people, that can be hard. It’s important to have time for yourself and other people before your relationship, such as family friends.
It allows the person to miss you and miss someone is right, and setting a date for when you’re going to see each other is also good. If you continuously have the same routine, you never look forward to anything because you expect to see that person. I don’t know about you guys, but I love alone time, and I love being alone, not saying that I’m antisocial or anything.
We tend to forget when we’re in a relationship because we focus all of our attention on that relationship. so it’s always vital. Like I said, take a step back and do something for yourself. Treat yourself to going out shopping.
You don’t always have to be with someone to feel a hole or feel complete, and your significant other should be like a happy enhancer. So you should already be pleased with yourself, and then when you see that person or when you’re with them they should make you even happier.
28. Never Compare Your Relationship
Comparing relationships nowadays is easy to do, mostly with social media. I would have to say Twitter and Instagram for sure you see so many pictures of people getting gifts or something like bags of victory or secrets from their boyfriend or whatever.
You like, oh my god, like I want that like why does it my boyfriend do that why don’t we like that why don’t we lick that picture that this person posted or something and right there – change your perspective. Look at your relationship and look into ways to improve and continue building your relationship and not compete or compare yourself to other relationships’ love and happiness.
Your relationship is the most important thing, and the best part about the relationship and the gifts are all little bonuses. Also, I feel like nowadays, girls put so much pressure on guys into what they have to do because of relationship goals.
It shouldn’t be like that. If you want your significant other to get you something, don’t put it out there for them to do it. It’s not genuine.
Looking at other people is fine getting inspiration for your relationship and wanting those material things it’s okay. Don’t let it make, and it seems like your relationship isn’t good enough, or you always want more material things.
29. Fight For Each Other
You and your significant others should always be putting 110 percent in your relationship, not 50/50, not 75, 25, 100 percent, and never force relationships. It’s not going to work out no matter what you do. It is going to work out no matter what you do.
My boyfriend and I have gone through so many things, and I’m a big believer in prayer, and somehow we always ended up working things out and only ending up together.
I believe in fate and that no matter what happens, no matter how long you guys may be away from each other if you go through a big struggle.
Keep in mind that whenever you’re going through challenges, try to work things out as best as possible. Always make sure that you hear both sides of your argument. Communication is key and everything, whether you’re building it or already in a relationship.
30. Forgive & Forget
You and your partner will both hurt each other in the relationship. It’s bound to happen because people make mistakes and things occur most of the time.
Things are never intentional when it comes to hurting one another. It happens you have to learn to accept things as they are and forgive and forget. It’s effortless to say and very hard to do. Remember that no matter what items you’ve gone through in your relationship. It will get better because time heals everything, and again been there has done that.
I’m so grateful for all the things and challenges that my boyfriend and I have been through. I’m so thankful that we were both able to forgive and forget because it puts your relationship at ease. It brings peace and even more happiness into your relationship. It makes things more robust.
For Example, When you forgive and forget, it’s a decision you’re driving to yourself. So leave it in the past, don’t keep bringing it up, don’t keep bringing that negative energy into your relationship.
It is super important because there’s nothing more unhealthy or worse than having that big grudge of anger, hate, and sadness. Move on, and it’s the best thing for not only yourself but for your relationship.
31. Consider Your Lover
You also need to consider what makes your partner happy, their values, what they operate under, and their belief system. The more you know about what makes them tick, the easier it will be to make them happy.
It’s going to be to avoid the landmines that every relationship has, the ones that if you step on the big fights about to happen if you know that your partner has specific triggers.
You need to make sure that you honor this value and go out of your way to make sure that you do the little things that matter to them. That goes to the point that coach Natalie was talking about earlier. You need to understand what makes your partner tick to prevent conflict down the road.
32. Set Common Goal
The vital element that I would like to address with you today is making sure that you have joint projects together if you are engaged in a specific activity with a common goal.
It will help bind the relationship to host a party together. For instance, you can plan, coordinate, organize and have fun. It will help the couple grow. You can plan a vacation or go on a community type of charity work project together where you can feel like you’re making a difference or bringing happiness into other people’s lives.
As a unit, these are the short-term things that you can do to pay the foundation to a long-term happy and healthy relationship.
33. Try To Solve Problems
When trying to prevent a breakup or avoiding fighting, consider knowing when to talk about the hard stuff. There are so many times that we lose our patience, and we’ve had it up to here.
For some reason, we think that’s the perfect time to have an earnest conversation about things that make us unhappy when I’m frustrated, and I’m angry. I’m wound up talking about what’s bothering me, and it’s probably not going to come off as superior.
I might be a little bit patient and a little less understanding. I may be more concerned with venting than listening to the solution. They may provide to eliminate the problem. So we don’t find resolve when we start yelling things in the middle what I would encourage you to wait for a better time when maybe things are going a little better.
34. Accept Difference
I’d also invite you to accept differences very consciously. To accept differences in a relationship, in my opinion, is to take your partner truly. Your partner is their person.
They’re going to have their unique values. When they have an idea about something, it will often be different from yours and often in relationships, a pitfall. We feel inherently threatened by differences.
Oh my gosh, you’re representing something out of my comfort zone. You see this in an unfamiliar way to me than I do so. I feel threatened by that, and then I try and change you, and nobody likes to be changed.
When someone’s trying to change us, we inherently want to fight that, and therefore we get opposed. So I would dare say that if we can accept differences rather than seeing differences as scary lousy things, we become closer in our relationship.
35. Speak The Language Of Feelings
Can you also speak the language of feeling? Feelings are the language of our heart, and of course, the heart is the lifeblood in a relationship, whatever the sensations you have in your heart. They are aspects of a language that your relationship needs or the blood will be progressively drained out.
For Example, We all know that communication in a relationship is critical but let’s take that one step further what are we communicating. If we’re always sharing our thoughts, our opinions, our judgments, and experience, then we need to find things in the relationship to get angry about will only become so annoyed with each other.
The relationship is a barren ice age of numbness also adds the three-dimensional heartfelt warmth to the relationship sharing feelings. Here are my feelings right now, and I have two ears. I’d love to hear what your emotions are right now.
36. Follow 80-20 Rules
I’d invite you to consider the 80-20 rule of interdependence ratioed with codependence. This is a rule that comes from a sagacious man named John McMullen. It says if we can be interdependent 80% of the time, I’m meeting my own needs through my stable relationship with myself.
I’m responsible for how I feel, what makes me happy in life what makes me unhappy. How do I feel motivated? How do I feel deflated?
For Example, I’m taking responsibility for that 80 percent of the time. I’m inner dependent which leaves 20 percent of the time to be codependent with each other, meaning 20 percent of the time I’m going to make you responsible for how I feel the smile I wear. I’m going to blame you for it in the frown I wear.
I’m going to blame you for that too many relationships are absolutely out of proportion where they are at least 80% codependent. It is very unconsciously shaming to be set up in a corner where we can’t possibly win the corner of you need to make me happy. We could probably agree that only one person on this earth can make you happy. I would dare say it’s the person sitting inside your body right now.
37. See Relationship As A Perpetual Learning Opportunity
I’ll share it with you is please look at your relationship as perpetual learning about yourself experience where you’re looking at your partner every day in your relationship and getting curious. What is this lovely person here to teach me today?
Can you look at your partner and see them as a sacred mirror? So if we don’t like what we see in the mirror and don’t know we’re looking in the mirror.
We’ll say is I want to get this mirror out of my life. I don’t like what I see in who’s looking back in the mirror is always our self. The more intimate a person is in our lives, the more of a clear mirror they are to show us. We’re not yet aware of the aspects of ourselves, both the light side and the shadow side.
38. Set Some Boundaries
It doesn’t matter if someone else has a different opinion, a different approach, or a different view when you’re communicating. Even if someone did something hurtful that was wrong, you’re going to take care of yourself. But you still need to verbally communicate to another person and possibly even set a boundary with another person that hey, When you were 15 minutes late, and you continuously do that, that’s not okay.
We’re always doing that regardless of being in a marriage or a relationship for 30 years. If you’re starting to date someone or meeting a new friend, or having an old family member, maybe you’re trying to get that relationship to a healthy place as best as you can.
Boundaries are absolutely everything, and your limitations are your standards in life. So you need to know what your criteria are in relationships and your boundaries are your way of communicating.
Hey, This is what I’m going to tolerate. This is what I’m not going to accept and how people treat you based on the boundaries you set now. If we don’t know how to emotionally take care of ourselves and have all these emotional wounds inside us, we’re not going to enforce that and the minute an abuser or someone.
That’s manipulative, and looking to take advantage of us starts to tiptoe on violating that boundary. We will let them do it because we come from such a lack. We don’t believe that we’re worthy enough to stand up to ourselves because perhaps we’re intimidated by someone. We fear the relationship ending.
39. Be Grateful For Your Partner
We have to be grateful for our partners that they’re not perfect. We’re not perfect, but you should always be with someone who has the same heart as you at the end of the day. It’s so important to work towards a healthy relationship. Are you have to love who your partner is at their core, and you have to show appreciation?
Everyone wants to appreciate it and feel like they’re doing in the relationship. I still understand what you can give that goes such a long way towards happiness in a relationship.
40. Resolve Conflict Together
You’re not always going to agree. There are times when you’re going to have to compromise either one person or the other. We’re arguing that it’s not as important as our relationship and understanding.
We can resolve conflict and get through those tough times together because life’s going to hand you some stuff as a couple that isn’t going always to be the easiest.
As long as two people have the same values. You respect the person’s character as long as you can work on yourself. In my opinion, any relationship can work and get through any difficult situation that you may face. But it has to do with all of these things. Are we doing all of these things?
Are we taking responsibility for ourselves? We’re putting everything on the other person and not willing to change or heal ourselves. So I hope that helps you understand what our healthy relationship should look like.
Frequently Ask Question
How do you know if a girl doesn’t like you?
She doesn’t pay you attention and try to avoid your speech.
She doesn’t want to share her personal life or any problem.
Her body language tells you more if you find it.
She acts like a very busy person and tries to escape from you.
You talk eye to eye when talking with her, but she doesn’t.
How tell if a girl is shy?
It would be best to give her some time to understand you.
It would be best if you whispered and funny that she laughed and reduced her stress.
Tell her a story that she feels comfortable with.
Respect her and ask her favorite or something else that is interesting.
When you know about her exciting things, then discuss them. She will enjoy the conversation and feel free to talk.
What are the 5 most important things in a relationship?
Self Respect & Give Respect.
Take care and be a good listener.
Trust and discipline.
Priority and forgiveness.
Freedom and choice.
What does a man want in a relationship?
A man wants inspiration and motivation from her life partner or lover. Every man wants respect, priority, freedom, caring, and support.
What does a woman want in a relationship?
Firstly, a woman wants a lot of priority and care from her boyfriend or husband. Then, she wants to support, well behavior and favorite items.
So, you should give her favorite things and try to provide a surprise because girls like to surprise and gift. Try to be a good listener and give her some sweet advice. Give her proper time and make some good memory.
How to control anger in a relationship?
Four Ways To Kick Anger Out Of Your Relationship
One of the common causes of fights is the inability to deal with your anger. Anger and resentment often lead to breakups in relationships.
Couples need to know how to manage anger to make things work. Here are four ways to kick anger out of your relationship for good:
1- Think before you speak
Learn to think before you speak if you have anger-related issues.
Never rush into saying anything if you are angry.
Emotions often overpower reasoning whenever we are angry.
2- Practice active listening
Learn to be a good listener.
If you listen to your man or woman, you will be able to change their lives. Real men and women listen to the desires of their partners all the time.
3- Connect physically with your partner
Being connected to your partner is another effective way to deal with anger. You will find more reasons to tolerate them when connected to them. Find out some of the things that connect you and work on the same.
4- Practice empathy
Your actions can make or break your love life. Learn to be empathic with your partner if you want things to work as expected.
There are the ups and downs of everyday life. You’re going to be frustrated at times with each other, but you’re together for a reason. You need to keep that in mind when the going does get tough, as always.
You understand my point very clearly. Now, it’s your turn to make a good relationship. Please comment and tell us about your relationship problems if you have any questions. We are waiting eagerly for your message. Please follow this advice if you want a healthy and strong relationship.
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