One realizes relationships can’t be excluded from our daily routine in your life journey. So therefore, at some point in one’s life, you will need a woman to start dating. If you are going to find a woman or a responsible girl you will feel comfortable with and put your trust in her, someone who won’t take your feelings for granted.
Today, I’m describing the most common dating mistakes that men make all time. So, listen carefully and try to understand your mistakes.
15 Dating Mistakes Men Make
Let’s get into it 15 dating mistakes applied to guys would also place to girls, of course. But I did try and make this list having guys in mind primarily. So let’s go right into it.
1. Self-Sabotage
You don’t care that much, acting too casual. So we mostly try to protect ourselves against rejection or have commitment issues, which is super familiar. If you have that, try and get someone to help you overcome that because it’s the most debilitating, horrible thing ever in life. Life is all about making meaningful connections to people.
If you’re not able to do that, that’s difficult anyway, entirely off-topic. We try to protect ourselves, so what we do is we put up a wall where we act very casual about the dating process to defend ourselves. To make the other person feel like we don’t care that much.
It’s a terrible idea because it gives us a vibe that you’re not interested in this. It also gives them a vibe that you’re not trying to get with them, which if someone wouldn’t riding it with you. You wouldn’t like that either, so it wholly ruins the whole thing.
It’s self-sabotage in every kind of way. So try to avoid that. It’s hard to open up your heart and be like, well, I’m going to show you that I care. I am interested in you, and I’m willing to work for you.
If you’re going to reject me anyway, that will hurt me greatly. But at least I’ve had an actual shot. Because if you don’t do that, if you don’t open up to someone, you’re never going to have a chance. So it’s going to be self-sabotage, so that’s number one.
2. Feeling Insecurities
Number two is revealing insecurities on a date now. I don’t know how to explain adequately, but I’m going to try it, so it is not smart. In many situations, to reveal your insecurities to people, and I do, I tend to be very open about my feelings.
Because I don’t feel like my feelings make me weak or less in control of anything. But you have to realize that people will take advantage of your insecurities.
Your insecurities make them initially think you’re an insecure person, which is not valid. But if you have uncertainties, that does not mean you’re a secure person.
Everyone has insecurities, but too many people can feel like you’re generally insecure if you talk about your insecurities. That’s unattractive because, in general, it comes it is with happiness and confidence, and everything we like someone that can make us feel better about ourselves.
If someone is more confident or feels like they’re more confident, we are attracted to them. Because we want to be that confident, someone seems happy.
We are excited about that because we want to be satisfied. The reality is that nobody is confident and happy, but that’s what we talked to initially. So I’m not saying that you should never talk about your insecurities.
3. Waiting Game
Number three is playing the waiting game. So there are ties into the first one. But it might be a completely different issue while you’re doing this. Being too weighty and standoffish will not work for you if you’re going to be like waiting for that person to text you or ask you on a date or in general.
It’s not going to work in your favor at all. It’s going to ruin everything. So do try and be take the initiative. Yeah, don’t wait for it up.
4. Acting Like Perfect
It’s trying to be perfect or putting on an act now. It comes from within ourselves. When it comes to dating, many of us have a list of like a checklist of the perfect guy that he has to have, not even like an actual like list that we have written down.
But in our head, we have a particular view of the person we want. A lot of us want someone to think very similarly to ourselves.
You have to realize very few people out there think it’s precisely how you feel about it. Many issues or subjects are very few, so counting on meeting someone that is the same or perfect in your eyes for you, the chances are very slim.
So we feel about people, and they feel about us that way too. What we want to do is come across very entirely. Because we’re looking for perfect. They must be looking for perfection. Then we put it on the net, and that is all wrong.
Never put on an act if someone does it like you for the way. Many people won’t like you for the way you are, and then, of course, you also don’t want many people for the way they are. Sincerely, if you think about your perspective, how many people in life do you like? Not that many.
So to expect everyone to like you on a date it’s completely unrealistic. Because you’re not a special snowflake that everyone likes, you shouldn’t want to be or try to be, so try to be yourself because if you don’t, you’re self-sabotaging again.
Because later on, you’re going to show your true colors, but it’s going to break anyway. So it’s not a solution.
5. Talk Over Text
Number five is talking too much over text or only talking over text. It’s charming to FaceTime someone or call someone or meet up with them in real life. Texting, first of all, it’s tiring. It’s so tiring because it is detached from the real world.
So you end up not having so much to talk about it. It’s the most boring environment to have a conversation ever. Even though it can be fun to exchange a few texts, it doesn’t mean you have to text regularly and only or exclusively, sometimes saying.
It’s a lot nicer to also speak to someone through other mediums. That’s a huge mistake that people make is to talk over text. So those are my five dating mistakes that guides make once again. It’s a place for everyone. But try to think about guys when I made this hope.
6. Shifty Attitude
If you have a victim mentality attitude that is a significant turn-off, what translates to a woman is that you can’t handle life. Suppose you can’t feel living on your own. Then how will she be able to trust you to handle life when you’re in a relationship.
Life throws crap at you because life is going to throw crap at you. That’s part of being a human and how you handle it. Your attitude toward it will reveal a lot about your characters.
7. Not Handling Shit Tests
You always agree with her instead of respectfully standing up for your own opinions. Also, with unwavering confidence, she will lose respect for you.
If you don’t handle the shit test well or at all and you walk away, then she’s going to look at you. Think that you’re weak and don’t know how to handle a woman she needs you to handle.
8. Body Language
When you have insecure body language, a woman will be turned off before meeting you. So what does uncertain body language look like? It seems like poor posture can come from gaming or too much time on the computer.
But it also is a sign of low self-esteem, insecurity, and depression. Sometimes even mental health issues, none of which are a turn-on until a woman.
So one thing you can do with body language is stand up straight, shoulders back, chin up, and walk with purpose like purposeful strides. You don’t have to walk fast but long, confident strides. So that’s another thing that you can do to increase the alpha confident body language now.
9. Excess Talk & Pride
Bragging or boasting women are subtle. We pick up on all kinds of very subtle hints, unlike men do. So if you’re going to boast or brag, You want to make sure you’re doing it so subtly that you don’t think she’s going to even pick up on it so.
For example, suppose you say you know. In that case, you’re proud of your job or are proud of your car. You’re proud of your accomplishments or whatever you’re feeling satisfied with.
It’s okay to slip it into the conversation as long as you’re not saying it directly to impress her. So if you’re trying to impress her by saying it, then that’s going to be a turn-off.
But if it comes up naturally or somewhat naturally seemingly organically in a conversation, then it’s not a turn-off. It’s also revealing evidence of your accomplishment, or it could be a social status.
It could be a financial status, physical or health status, whatever it is that you feel that might be something that would be impressive to her.
You must find a way to put it into the cover. Put it into the conversation in a way that isn’t obvious. So if you have a great job, you can ask her a vote about her job or what she likes about her career.
Then that’s a natural way to say yeah, at my job for such a long time. I enjoy it. They appreciate me because they know it gets his great bonuses.
Whatever if you work for yourself, you can say good for yourself. You enjoy working for yourself or suitable for you, and You like your boss or too bad. You don’t want your boss, so I love working for myself.
I’m in charge of my hours and my. I have an unlimited income because I decide how much I’m going to work or whatever. You get the idea that if the conversation is about her, how the particular topic relates to her.
Then it’s natural for you to add your status in that specific situation. There are other ways, like having something that you’re feeling proud of. But you’re not sure how to work it into the conversation.
10. Agree With Everything
It was a little bit like number two in failing shit tests by always agreeing. But in and of itself is always agreeing with her. That’s such a turn-off for a woman.
She wants to know that you have an opinion. Because she doesn’t ever think she’s going to be right about things. If you always agree with her, she can’t trust that she can lean on you or rely on you.
When she doesn’t know what to do about something in life or when you’re struggling together as a team with something, she needs to trust that you can have an opinion of your own. That might get you both to a better place because you have confidence in your own beliefs, ideas, solutions, values, and the whole thing.
So if you continuously agree with her, that will come across as a weakness. So what you need to do is to find things that you disagree on and then have conversations about that, not necessarily arguments, at some point in time.
You will argue, but you want to have healthy debates about the pros and cons of different ideas and philosophies and opinions about life in general. So if you can do that, that will be more impressive to her than if you agree with everything she says.
11. Personality & Interest
Having an inauthentic personality again also ties in with always agreeing with her. Suppose you are inauthentic because you are trying to be the type of person. You think she wants. Then you’re going to have to play that role for the rest of your life.
It’s not going to feel good, and she’s going to sense it because women are very intuitive and can sense these things. There’s going to be something that doesn’t fit and feel right for her. There’s going to be an incongruent between who you’re portraying and who you are.
So you’ll also be a lot happier if you be who you are. What that mostly looks like in the real world is doing what you enjoy doing unapologetically. So if you’re a gamer, significant be a gamer if you are an athlete great be an athlete.
Don’t try to downplay who you are and what your interests genuinely are for someone else. There will be some happy medium and some common ground for compatibility.
If there isn’t, then she’s not the right person for you anyway. It’s better to find that out sooner than later, so be who you genuinely are to compromise on your personality or interests for anyone else.
12. Own Opinions
You need to have your own opinions about pretty much everything. So the best way to practice an idea within your friendship groups or even within your peers at work. Suppose you work with people and to instead of agreeing with or not even agreeing.
But sitting back apathetically and not contributing, start thinking about what people are talking about, process that within yourself, and decide which things you genuinely agree with. Which items you might choose not to accept!
The best thing you can do is practice speaking up about something you disagree with. It may be challenging at first because you’re struggling with meeting women many times.
If you’re shy, it’s because it’s not because it’s also exacerbated by our behaviors of wanting to please others. Not create discourse, so what you need to do is to start speaking up about things.
You disagree when it’s not as important as with a woman. Because you need to be practiced and able to disagree with a woman, have your own opinions when it counts like you can’t be like oh shit, I’m going to I don’t agree with this? It makes you weak women do not like weak men, not the women you want to tell me, not the type of women you want.
13. Believe System
You think she’s out of your league now, one of the things. Remember that we tend to date people about the same level. Women tend to want to date someone who’s at least at her level or a little higher at least perception-wise, so that doesn’t mean you are better than her in any way.
The better is subjective, but you don’t want to be acting like she’s better than you! What you have to do is how you can handle this? You need to remember that all women, no matter how gorgeous! Even sometimes, when they’re specifically hot beautiful, all women have insecurities.
There’s something about her body or personality or something about herself that she doesn’t like and that she’s insecure about, you have to remember.
It is true almost all women that you’re going to be interested in you. Maybe the JLo’s of the world aren’t insecure. Any woman that you’re probably interested in is going to have insecurity.
It’s also going to have flaws. You must remember that women have flaws, not physical but personality flaws, mental-spiritual, whatever we like.
You need to be able to believe. Otherwise, it’s going to show up again in your interactions. If you don’t think you’re good enough for her, she’s not going to believe that you’re good enough for her.
Because it’s contagious, so contagious, that reminds me of another joke anyways. It’s contagious, so how do you deal with this. You’ve got to remember and go into every interaction, remembering and believing and knowing that there’s something about her that isn’t perfect.
So when you do that, then you’re not going to start putting her on a pedestal. That’s the worst thing you can do at the beginning of any relationship. Indeed in a relationship, unless you’re both putting each other on a pedestal within a relationship.
It’s not healthy, and it’s going to make you look again weak and needy and not good enough. You don’t think you’re good enough. She’s not going to believe you’re good enough!
14. Silence
Silence is only awkward if you feel awkward. You don’t have to fill every gap with chit-chat or conversation. Another discussion tip is asking her open-ended questions, like “Do you like pizza?” It’s a closed-ended question!
Do you know what pizza is your favorite pizza or where is the favorite best pizza you’ve had in the city, things like that?
So where there’s more than a yes or no answer at the end of that you can expect, don’t be nervous again. If your barn is shy – easy to say, “don’t be nervous.”
If you are worried, try to focus on your sentence like “what can you see?” “what can you smell?” “what can tastes feel a lot?” That should get you grounded again. So that’s one thing you can do there.
15. Eye Contact
The best thing that is a significant turn-off to women is when you fail to make eye contact. So if you are continually looking away and can’t maintain eye contact, that is again a sign of insecurity weakness. We’re a serial killer like no one wants a shreddies killer.
So you need to maintain eye contact for about 80% of the time. You’re looking at her for about eighty percent of the time. You might glance away when you’re thinking about something. You’re going to maintain eye contact. Don’t be staring down like this.
You need to show and maintain eye contact because that shows confidence and brings her into the intimate fold of air conversation.
13 Dating Advice For Men
Dating is a very complicated situation, as those who have gone into it can attest. For the lucky few, they go into relationships with a partner who fits them, completes them, and make them live happily ever after. But for the majority, it’s a case of trial and error.
That said, for those in the second category (trial and error), a lot of pain and suffering comes with the end of what seemed to be a promising date. But no one suffers more from this than the foolish guys.
Are you a guy that has been in a relationship or dating? You should be familiar with what I’m about to say. Are you seeking to go on a date? Then this is for you. Here are 13 basic dating tips for men:
1. Don’t Be A Foolish Guy
Let’s start with the very first problem with being a foolish guy. There’s no sugar-coated way to say this: you will be single for a very long time. Because, on average, ladies tend to go for guys who exhibit confidence ruggedness and are generally “bad.” No girl wants an annoying, foolish guy for a boyfriend.
But if you happen to be a cute foolish guy, then your looks might save you. A girl may decide to pity-date you, or maybe you’ll come across that scarce girl who is genuinely into foolish guys. But this is real life, and the chances are slim.
So, Be an energetic & clever boyfriend. Try to read your girlfriend’s mind and act like a wise man. Girls like wisdom and intelligent guy.
2. Follow Give & Take Rule
You finally got into a relationship or date. It will be with girls looking to exploit you more often than not. It is by no means an antagonistic attack on girls, and it’s the truth. You find it hard to distinguish between genuine relationship material and “runs girls” looking for an easy target.
It is because anyone can play with you when it’s convenient to do so. Pretty soon, you’ll find yourself spending a lot on the girl, getting pushed here and there.
In general, you give your all to someone who isn’t willing to invest a dime in return. You find it hard to say “no,” and they are made to suffer for it. In the end, you’ll be left broke, sad, scared, and wishing you never got into a date in the first place.
So, set up your mental health & accept this common issue. You should not find innocent girls because they are rare. If you want to date, then follow the give and take rule.
Always try to help your dating partner and protect her. Please give her a gift or surprise that she likes more. Always keep her happy and act as a joker that she feels relaxed. Otherwise, you will lose her.
3. Don’t Be A Emotional Guy
A bad ending is inevitable in most emotional guy dating or relationships. Like any other relationship, it takes its toll on the participating parties/party. However, when you’re on a date, you will suffer more, if not suffer everything.
You’ll start asking yourself questions like, “what did I do wrong?”, “wasn’t I nice enough?” “How could she do this to me?”. But the answer to each of those questions are as follows: “you were good,” and “you are are an emotional guy.”
The relationship game doesn’t favor emotional guys. If the girl is a runs girl, she’ll get tired of kicking you around and leave unceremoniously. If she’s a regular girl, you’d be too much of a pushover for her. No one wants to date an annoying or emotional guy.
So, control your emotion and act as a straightforward man. Give emotional support to your partner, but don’t be sensitive. Girls think emotional guys are weak and coward.
4. Innocent Man
So you’ve had your first bitter date experience, but you still think that maybe, you met the wrong girl. No, The girl met the wrong guy. But at this point, you’re once again in the dating market, looking for another shot at a match made in heaven. If only dreams came true so quickly.
Here’s the thing: if you’ve never been friend zoned before, or you’ve been and were too innocent to figure it out, it becomes more glaring at this point.
You meet a girl, the two of you strike up an interesting conversation, it seems she’s into you. You start texting or calling or whatever your innocent cooks up. You’ve still not moved past this point. What happened? You’ve been friend-zoned.
You watch in horror and shock as a far less innocent guy, a thug, or bad boy comes along and takes the lady of your dreams away. You’ll start blaming the gods for your misfortune.
Then you’ll ask yourself, “why would she leave an innocent guy like myself with all my good intentions for someone who is very crude and rough?” the simple answer is that the guy has more fun prospects, and you’re boring.
So, Be a smart and intelligent man. Respect yourself and be a protective guy. Girls always want a guy who saves them, protects them and loves them so much. Don’t act like a shy guy because it seems you are funky.
5. Husband Material
At the end of the day, after more friend zones than actual dating and getting to see the girls of your dreams get snatched away by thugs. The only thing that will be left for you is nothing, not even your self-esteem.
You’ll start developing a phobia for relationships, and when people ask you why you’re still single? You’ll come up with some excuse about not being ready for a relationship, wanting to take a break, or not having found the right girl.
There’s a bit of consolation, though: when the ladies are done partying and whatnot, you start to look like the ideal husband material. There is nothing better than a broken guy who has zero chance of wooing other ladies and zero relationship experience. So he can keep being a pushover.
So, don’t talk about marriage and act as a husband. You are on a date, so enjoy your moments and freedom. Tell her about it or propose to her directly if you feel like a wife.
Sometimes it works, and the majority of the time, it fails. Most girls want to enjoy dating with memorable moments, not a wife material or family moments. So, identify your women’s behaviors and attitudes, then act as she wants.
6. Stop Demanding
When a woman realizes your main focus in dating is physical relation, and you are always demanding, the girl will play around with you. Don’t treat her all because she loves you. Your girlfriend is there to love you and care for you.
Don’t for no reason demand unless she’s willing to give. Don’t be cheap because they will chase you out like a dog when ladies use you. Mister independent earns respect. Be one!
7. Solve Misunderstanding
Don’t believe she loves you if she’s not showing it in truth and inactions. Inaction does not mean having sex with you but showing it in her companionship towards you even without having sex with you.
Dating is the art of relationships. Don’t be fast. Give time, spend quality moments, and your dreams come true automatically. Be patient and understand your partner’s feelings, desires, beliefs, minds, etc.
8. Don’t Be Available All Time
Going to her house/hostel every day will make her know you are cheap. Learn how to say I’m busy at times. Don’t always be available. Get yourself busy, be productive.
If you want to make your next dating more attractive, then take time and set a limit meet up.
9. Respect Your Partner
Dating is not about having fun with someone for as long as it can last. It is about being understanding and honest with each other even without including love, and people typically perceive it as the ultimate in a relationship. There is more to a relationship than that.
10. Be Aware Of Dress-up
Purposely for fun only, are the type of girls who will always approach you. Dress responsibly and decent. Real girls or women don’t like eating uncovered food. Your dress sense creates your personality and manners. Girls always focus on the man’s dress up, shoes, and hairstyle. So be smart but not villain type.
Try to know about your favorite color and dress up from your girlfriend. Next date, you make it your gate up and tell your girl you wear this because of you. Your girlfriend will be happy, and she will feel that you give priority. Trust me; it’s the best dating game.
11. Love Yourself
A girl posting you on social media, taking you out on a chill-up every day, doesn’t mean she loves your soul. Play more to her realities than her gallery.
Don’t beg any girl to love you. Let her go. We don’t force true, and it naturally comes by itself when you least expect it. Move on, and you’ll find another sweet girl who understands you more. It’s the first date tip for guys.
12. Be Natural
Don’t force a girl to do what she usually does before. If she is still in love with you, you won’t force her to call or message you before she does so. You can never buy true love, don’t force her. She’s indirectly telling you that she’s done with you. People’s actions are their keywords to their feelings for you.
Start reducing your love for her when you sense she is taking you for granted. Value yourself set priorities of standards. If they genuinely care, they will always find time for you.
13. Earn Real Value
Don’t continue dating her if she’s not making you happy or adding real value to your life. Every relationship that weighs you and makes you unhappy runs from it. Put some respect for yourself. You must not be independent of her.
Don’t listen to her sugar-quoted mouth. Grow from listening to what women say, but rather pay attention to their actions. There are things to observe and discover.
Dating should not be something you will rush into, all because she said, I LOVE YOU. She must give you sensitive reasons for loving you not only by saying you are hot.
5 Types of Guys Who Are Easily Used By Ladies
Often, the very reason you are easily used and abused by women maybe your temperament, appetite, attitude, or character.
It would be wise for you to dust your ass and follow your steps now if you were in any of the following categories! Following are some types of men that women manipulate easily:
1. The Sex Freak
Sex is undoubtedly a formidable instrument for women employed to manipulate men by constantly draining them financially and emotionally from time immemorial!
If you are a sex freak, you will do whatever she asks to avoid losing access to regular sex! Over the long run, more than half of your monthly income can be spent on her! Being able to control your sexual impulses will significantly help you become a baby slut!
2. The Love-starved Guy
Guys are looking for love, it’s not wrong to look for love, but you can use it easily with the women if you are too obsessed with it. Why are you going to ask a babe to date?
Promise her you’re going to look after her or give her anything? You have to be a Mugu of the 21st century! You lie on the field to trample and use in the long term as you do this!
3. The Emotionally-weak Guy
Women can easily use emotionally vulnerable guys. These guys tend to exhibit desperation, inexperience, and romantic stupidity! They can’t always say ‘No’ to the demand of a lady.
I call them ‘Yes Guys’ It’s this guy who will keep calling a baby up to 78 times, knowing full well that she doesn’t want to pick up his request. He can easily change his significant plans to please a woman who doesn’t even have a love atom for him. He can hunger for a baby to give her the expensive goodies she’s asked!
4. The Show Guy
Do you want to turn up? Your last money on Earth is 5k. You don’t know where and when the next money will arrive, and yet you’d always go ahead and take her to an expensive restaurant to show her you can help her with her needs.
It is where you end up spending almost all the money; if she tells you she needs this and that, and you discover that the bill will take nearly all the cash, it would be prudent to tell her the simple truth!
Emotionally healthy guys have no fear of openly telling the truth, but emotionally vulnerable guys are! If that is the case, the babe will easily use you because she can find that quickly.
5. Fighting Guy
Guys fighting for a lovely woman are very prone to be used and handled by women. It is this category of guys. I opened a thread for fighting guys once. If you’re a hard-fought low-income guy, please face your front! In other words, face your life’s most important things, and stop drooling over beautiful!
These girls will only end up using you when they realize you don’t have the resources or means to live up to their expectations. The results are heartbreak and emotional trauma! Just imagine the situation here. You struggle, and it’s so beautiful and warm that she wants so many men with their many offers! If not, what are you going to get?
Conclusion
I hope you can identify your dating mistakes. Try to maintain these dating tips to make your relationship secure. You can make your dating memorable and exciting if you follow these rules.
Nobody can misuse you or betray you if you do these properly. Be a strong and honest man because it gives you purity and happiness. Don’t cheat or use any girl/woman because humanity is the priority in life.
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