40 Practical Ways To Get Over A Crush

Move on from a crush

How to get over a crush? Hello everybody. What’s up? I hope you’re all having a fantastic week. How do you move on from a crush? Is it possible to break up with someone in your mind even if you didn’t have a full-fledged relationship? Is it possible to walk away from that happy feeling every single time you think of that person or you every time you see them?

Yes, it is possible. There’s mainly meaning if this was first crush ever, and now you have to move on. It hurts so much. It is hard to pick up everything, walk away, and leave your crush behind. It’s so hard.

In this helpful article, I’m giving you detailed steps to move on from your crush, whether you have been rejected. Or you realize that things aren’t going to work out with them, or even if you know that they’re a jerk. They don’t deserve for you to have a crush on them anymore.

Facts About Having A Crush On Someone

We need to determine whether or not this is a crush. So question number one for you to ask yourself do you know this person. Do you know enough about them to have a crush on them genuinely? Have you seen them once or twice, and you’re like, okay?

They’re cute. No, that would be what I call the star games! We would break it down for you if you didn’t want to start gazes now. A stargaze is whenever you’ve watched celebrities and admired their beauty. But you don’t talk to stars, and you don’t go on dates with stars. The stars don’t know you. I call that a star gaze whenever you don’t know them, and you watch them, and you like them.

They’re creating a crush when you have fallen for this person, and you want them to like you back. We’re always talking about getting into new relationships and flirting. It is as important as a life skill to know how to overcome someone and move on, whether that’s a relationship or a past crush. Every single one of us gets rejected.

Rejection is one topic that we don’t like to think about or talk about because it brings up bad feelings. It brings up bad memories and bad moments in our lives. It brings up a time when we felt inadequate, unloved, and uncared for. You know what I’m talking about. You have these intense feelings for someone. You want to get to know them better and talk to them.

So when you finally work up the courage to do so, it doesn’t go anywhere, but that doesn’t mean your feelings go away. You’re still sitting with them, not sure what to do with them because that person doesn’t like you back.

It’s completely normal to stay in that hurt once we get rejected. In a way, it’s a bit comforting to know that we feel bad for ourselves. We’re taking care of ourselves by doing that, and the idea of moving on and trying something new and going after new people is scary and foreign and weird to us.

It’s not a comfortable thing to do. Think about it: how much of your life will you dedicate to chasing this one person who doesn’t like you back? When you should be out there pursuing other people, getting to know others, meeting with them, interacting with them, seeing who you click with.

Taking that step back will give you that much more profound sense of clarity that you’re longing for. Now, if you want to learn more about relationships and interactions, you should check out my book Embracing The Awkward, where I go more in-depth on how to master those connections in your life.

40 Practical Ways To Get Over A Crush

How to move on from a crush? Let me frame this whole thing by saying that crushes seem very serious and real when you’re younger. Let me shatter your world a bit and let you know that crushes are neither serious nor are they even real. It seems very real, looks very serious, not at all, and you’re going to realize that over time.

I look back at myself in high school and college when crushes were so real to me, and I find it cringe-worthy now. I can’t put myself back in that mindset and make sense of it anymore because, yeah, sure, I still get crushes but do they mean much? No. It doesn’t rule my life the way it used to. So how did I get past it, you might be wondering.

I will talk about a few things that I’ve personally done in the past to get over a crush. These are going to be harsh tips. If you’re not ready to forget someone yet, you’re still clinging to something that wasn’t that you should remember; what are you clinging to.

Many people around us often will tell us because they see our situation, and they’re like what they are you clinging on to like a bad situation. They’re treating you poorly, or this is not going anywhere this bad for you.

They’re going to tell you that, but if you don’t feel personally ready to say goodbye to someone, that’s fine. That’s okay; take your time, but you have to be realistic and ask yourself if this hurts me. It’s something that you think is great in that you want to keep it. If it’s hurting you at the moment, realize that it will be better for you.

1. Don’t Smash Your Feelings

Don’t try to squash your feelings. It can be tempting to put on a brave face and make everybody think that you’re a happy self. The truth is you’re probably going to be feeling a little bit glum at first, even if you didn’t date this person. You wouldn’t even wonder why am I crying over someone who didn’t even take me in the first place. But your feelings are justified.

It can be as devastating losing a crush as losing an actual boyfriend or a girlfriend. So, feel your feelings. Don’t be afraid to talk to a friend, and if you don’t want to talk to your friends about it, write in the journal. Do anything to get it out and feel what you are feeling. You can easily do this.

2. Create A Fabulous Look

Another better way of moving on is to remind yourself that you are fabulous by creating a brand-new look for yourself. This idea is to help you rock your inner bombshell instead of trying to make someone else jealous. Feeling confident and boosting your spirits is a huge part of moving on and feeling good about yourself.

Look yourself in the mirror and remind yourself how awesome and sexy you are. I want to tell you something you might not have a girlfriend. Maybe you haven’t found love. You’re so sexy. Just remember that and move on from your crush.

You have to remember that you’re hot and deserve to be wanted. If someone doesn’t want you back the way you want them, that’s bull crap and missing out. There’s someone else that’s going to be dying to get your attention. So sometimes have to get a little ego boost. It’s good for the soul, mind, and spirits.

3. Reward Yourself

You may not want to do this one. But I promise you that you’re going to feel so much better afterward. It’s to do things by yourself. Doing things by yourself helps you develop confidence. It also enables you to explore your interests and things that you like that maybe your crush or your ex didn’t even like.

For example, if you’re a vegan and love exploring new vegan restaurants, check out some on your own. It can feel personally rewarding for you. It also gets you around other people who share your interests, and you never know who you’re going to meet. You might be in a situation where you think that nobody out there could fall for again in the same way you fell for this person.

4. Realize The Reality

It is precisely to help you with that, and it’s a little weird too. But it’s to be a people watcher. Going out and doing things like sitting on a bench in a park and watching the people go by or opening your eyes when you’re riding the subway and looking at the people around you.

Consciously doing this reminds you that so many people in this world exist right now. You might feel like this loss is the only person in the world who matters, but it’s not going to feel like that forever. The sooner you realize how many other people there are in this world living their lives, the sooner you’re going to get to that place nice.

5. Focus On Your Self-improvement

Now, this is different than the self-love we talked about earlier. It is improving a skill or a part of yourself. Things like working out, networking, starting up a new hobby, all of these things improve a part of your skills or yourself and can help you feel more confident and ready to take on the world. You are already beautiful and perfect the way you are.

We already know that, but feeling like you’re bettering yourself and making yourself no more or being able to do more. It puts you in a good emotional state. It makes you feel good and even distracts you a little bit from what you might be going through right now.

If you’re going through a heartbreak right now, think about what your best friend would say to you, you’re beautiful, you’re talented, you’re smart, you’re going to be okay. Your friends know you well enough to know that you’ll get through this, and you’ll get through it too.

6. Write A-List

Write a list of what you want in your future husband or your future wife. Once you’ve listed all those qualities, I want you to see which ones your crush is missing. Because there’s going to be some things that I’m pretty sure that he doesn’t, or she doesn’t have.

That’ll help you get in the process of thinking, ‘there’s someone better for me out there. You meet someone for the first time, or you are boyfriend and girlfriend with someone or something along that line, and you realize that they are on their best behavior. If they’re on their best behavior and if they’re still not kind to you or they’re still not doing things that you’re so happy about, that’s their best behavior.

Think about whether you’re married to that person or dating long-term. That’s not going to be something you’re going to want in your life. You want happiness and productivity and things that will grow you as a person.

7. Express Your Pain

It’s an unusual way that I’m going to say to cry and let yourself break. But the reason I say that is for a couple of reasons. Number one, When you cry, it releases endorphins, which is good.

Second, you let this go when you cry, and you break. You’re finally not postponing this pain. Because when you hold on to everything, you don’t let go. You’re delaying all this pain, and you’re putting yourself on this shelf.

You’re finding a fake rest and fake peace. Because you’re going to break eventually, and it’s going to be even more challenging. You’re pushing so much off, and you get depressed or sad or lonely, or you have these hollowed-out relationships.

Those are all signs of you pushing off brokenness and pushing off the pain. In my life, I learned that in my brokenness and my problem is the times that you can heal when you’re broken. That’s a form of healing, so that’s how you begin to heal yourself. You have to do it. You have to let yourself go!

8. Let Your Crush Go

I’m a dreamer. Being a human, we often like to daydream. Stop making up fantasies about you and this person together. I’ve also learned in my life that you can’t change people no matter how much you want to change them. No matter how much that person or your opinion is right, you can’t change them.

You can’t make somebody change. So, let him/her go. You have people say, ‘if you love something, let it go. If it’s meant to be, it’ll come back to you. If you think about it, it can’t go back to you. If you haven’t let it go, you need to let it go. It can’t come back and work out in the end if you don’t let it go initially. To begin with, that’s helped me in my mental process.

9. Do Something New

You can talk to a friend when I talk to a friend that works for me sometimes. I realized that two of these things helped me. Number one is creative expression to release all those emotions and feelings.

For example, I wrote down our music dance. You can do writing poetry. I make music. I don’t even show some of the songs that I write. It’s for me to put my words, feelings, and creativeness into something to feel better. It is my little piece of someone understanding you the way I. I am there for myself.

My second thing under the topic of doing something is simply realizing that you’re not alone. You’re not the only one going through this thing in life. Some so many people want to get over their crush. Some people are going through breakups and brokenness, and it may even have nothing to do with a guy or a girl. People are going through stuff; we all are. That is something that helps me a lot of times.

I realize I don’t know how to figure myself out or feel okay. So what I do is I go, and I stop being selfish. You’re focusing on me and letting me talk to my other friend. I thought she’s gone through something, and you’ll begin to realize that you help other people when you go. You’ll start to heal. Why not help others out of that working spot? It doesn’t sound like it would make sense. It would work.

10. Be Positive

You need to realize that there are many things in life and the world. Magazines and the TV, they’re telling you all these things. But that doesn’t mean it’s true. It’d be like me telling you that this shirt is white, and you believe it because I told you so.

You need to guard your heart and trust that you are amazing. You deserve it. You are awesome. Think about that and begin to develop yourself as a person. Because whoever you are, the type of person you are is the type of person you’ll attract.

11. Take Your Crush As Fun

It sounds so heart-wrenching and challenging and critical. But no! A scientific study showed that when people were instructed to think evil thoughts about their ex and then saw photos of them later, their feelings were less intense. Honestly, they were terrible kissers.

They were the worst dresser. None of his clothes matched. The guy was never at school. You might think that your heart doesn’t listen to instructions from your brain. But it does! For example, if you’re artistic at all, you can draw a funny picture of your crush, looking at their worst. It is almost guaranteed to make you feel better.

12. Study About Brain & Make Good Habit

It is going to be surprising is to boost your mood with serotonin. We’re getting a little bit deeper into psychology and brain chemistry. What is serotonin? It is a chemical in your body that sends signals between your nerves. It is associated with a lot of different functions. But the one that we’re concerned with right now is your mood. When you get a burst of serotonin, you feel terrific.

If you don’t get enough, you feel depressed, and there are two ways to increase your serotonin right now. Why not do that? The first way is eating certain foods that give you a rush of serotonin, and the second way is getting in the Sun. That is a real sentence I’m about to say. If you want to move on from your crush or your ex more quickly, why not grab a bunch of your friends and do a fabulous picnic where you bring many superfoods and get in the Sun.

13. Unfollow Your Crush From Social Media

If you want to stop liking someone fast, you must unfollow them on all of their social media. No excuses! You have to do this. Some of you are going to say I’m so strong. I can follow them, and I will never check. No! I don’t believe you. It is so hard! The hardest thing I’m ever going to have to do! If you still like someone, you’re going to be tempted to check. You need to get rid of that temptation for yourself.

Knowing that you could check it anytime keeps you from moving on. Unfollow them on every platform. It might be embarrassing that they notice, but this will help you move on. That’s where my best interest is.

After you have unfollowed your crush on all of the platforms, make sure to follow three to five new accounts about things that make you smile. Things that make you happy. It could be funny memes. It could be animals. It could be babies. It could be bloggers. Whatever makes you happy.

14. Do Meditation

The next step is one of my favorite ways to jump someone. The whole world knows that. Most people don’t realize that exercise increases serotonin in the same way as getting outside and eating foods. Whether you’re going dancing with your friends and having a super fun night out, and you’re getting moving.

Go on for a walk, put your headphones in, and go on a nice little meditation walk. It is a positive vibe for your body, and it can put you in a positive. Leave that crush and sadness. The other massive advantage of moving your body is getting out there and meeting new people. Usually, good relationships and good bonds help you mentally set aside your ex or crush.

15. Make New Memories

You need to go and make new memories in all of the places where you used to see yourself with your crush or your ex. This sounds complicated and time-consuming. It works. It is going to trick your brain. Because every time you go into those places, inevitably, you’re going to be reminded of the previous times that you had interactions about it, where he/she looked at me for the first time.

He/she used to stand in front of the red lockers all the time. When you make new memories in all of these places, you’re establishing new neural pathways. You’re going to remember not only your ex or your crush, but also you’re going to have all these lovely new memories in those places.

Take control, empower yourself, and create new things. That’s going to help you move on mentally. One of the things that suck when we’re trying to get over a person is that our mind continues going on this like a feedback loop of thoughts about them. You’re thinking about things, and you remember all the fun times you had. You’re wondering where you went wrong. It’s going like you’re not getting anywhere with the thoughts, and they’re there all the time.

16. Find Out The Error

One way to stop doing this is to write down everything going on here and put it into a journal on a piece of paper. Because that solidifies the thought, it stops you from thinking about it.

When writing these thoughts down in a journal, you want to summarize what went wrong. Why didn’t your crush or your ex become the love of your life? Even get down to their personality traits. Things you loved seeing. Something that you didn’t like. Be as detailed as you can and get it all out.

17. Disconnect Your Crush From All Network

We’re going to think that I care too much. They’re toxic about social media, especially Snapchat, Instagram Stories, and stuff like that; you’re regularly updated about what someone is doing with their lives. It’s very toxic if you’re trying to forget someone. It’s a constant reminder. It is not right, so it’s slightly better for you mentally to unfollow them, at least on social media types.

You might want to keep them on like Facebook or something where you’re not updated continuously about their day. But 24/7 updates on someone you’re trying to stop thinking or that are not good for your psyche. If you’re linked to them in any way, maybe like games or whatever archive, the chats remove the chats and chat history. It ends up feeling like you don’t have a history with them anymore because it’s stored history.

You’re not going to find them anywhere anymore throughout your phone. So take their number out of your phone, take them out, and then it has nothing to do with caring a lot. People are scared that it’s a clinical process, so they care too much. But it has nothing to do with that. It has to do with getting them out of your life because of their baggage, and you don’t need bags.

18. Everybody Has Crush In Life

If you’re sad about it, feel sorry about it. That’s okay and if you want to rebound about it, look for other people to get attention. In the end, getting over someone is a lot like losing someone, and the process of going over that is a lovely great. Because you’re having to come to terms with that person not being in your life anymore, even though it’s your toys, it still feels that way, so allow yourself at that period.

It’s okay to have a few conversations about it with your friends. In general, when it comes to getting over a crush, it’s putting it away. Stop thinking about it. It has to be low on your plan. It shouldn’t be on your list anymore. So stop talking about them to your friends.

19. Avoid Negative Conversation

Do not talk about them in negative ways. Don’t be toxic about them because of negative vibes even though they’re not about you, but there was someone else and reflected onto you. What are the prettiest people? It has a reflection on everything, and this might sound crazy.

I don’t support what I’m saying, but negative people are ugly. It reflects, and it flows through your entire body. Even people who talk about other people even though they deserve it. When you speak about other people, it’s ugly for your soul, and it’s ugly for your life. It’s not going to help you in any way and going to make you feel more pain.

If you have something to say about them, say- We don’t live anymore, it hurts me too much. I’m not mad, and I don’t want to say bad things about them. They don’t deserve that either, but it’s better for me. I’m happier now that’s fine, that’s enough.

20. Make A Distance

I always recommend that people remove them from the social connection or mute their posts. The more you look at their pages, the more you see the things they post, the more you’re going to get invested in their lives and continue thinking about them. There’s a real fear of missing out if you unfollow them because what if they break up with that person and you’re not there to catch them and go out with them.

Or, what if they are having a bad day and you’re not there to help them through it. The fact is, you’re always putting yourself in a scenario where you can jump in, and you can be a part of their life. Still, if they’re with someone else, for now, the best thing for you to do is to detach yourself, focus on your growth and your development, and even talk to other people.

Because the more you obsess over them, the more you continuously look to their feed, like their pictures, comment on them, and interact with them, the harder it’s going to be for you to overcome them.

I wouldn’t recommend blocking them because blocking might lead to them asking you questions like, “Why am I blocked?” which involves you again in their lives, which you are not trying to do here.

21. Make Outline Of Your Hobbies & Plays

Outline your hobbies and your interests and pursue them. Often, people stay obsessed with their crush because that’s the only thing in their lives. But if you have items, you enjoy doing things, and you can pursue them. That will help, take the focus and attention from your crush. Put it on things that are better for yourself.

Look, even if you tell yourself you’re going to read a hundred books and play a thousand different sports. You’re still going to have intrusive thoughts about your crush pop in from time to time. But by having a place to redirect them to, telling yourself, “Wow, I’m thinking about them again. Let me go and play a sport.

Hey, let me read a book. Let me do something else. You’re able to shift your focus and shift your attention. It’s a matter of training yourself to rewire your activity every time those thoughts pop up. Because when they do, it might start bringing you down and making you think that they’re the only person for you.

22. Create A Community

You may not currently like anyone else. The whole purpose of this is to meet new people, make new friends, get to know people, and see how you can develop new crushes on them. Here, have you ever told yourself that the person you currently like is perfect?

Answer in the poll right there. But, many times, we do this simply because we don’t know as many people compared to them. So by putting yourself out there and meeting new people, you’re able to compare and contrast different people. Now, you might still tell yourself that this crush is always better than everyone else. The fact remains that you expand your options and potential for meeting someone new by meeting new people.

Plus, it allows you also to shift your focus and attention from that crush again. You’re going to start to look at that crush differently as you meet new people. You will begin to say things like, “Well, this other person is a lot funnier than my crush.

This other person is a lot more outgoing. Wow. These other people have these other traits that my crush doesn’t rank number one on.” But what do you do in situations where you go back to interacting with your crush?
Maybe it’s against your own choices.

23. Be Calm

Be calm and casual every single time you interact with them. Now, if the two of you were friends before, it’s going to be hard to walk away and pretend like that friendship never happened. There will be moments where you will interact with them.

So in those moments, try not to dig too deep into their story and what’s going on with them. The more you learn, the more those thoughts will stay rested in your mind.

Maybe they’re going to mention something about having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. They may even mention anything that they say about being happy or sad. It’s going to get plugged into your mind, and you’re going to have to recode it all over again.

In those situations, try to keep the conversation short if you can. Try not to reveal too much about what’s going on in your life and how you’re pursuing other people.

So you sound like your boasting because that might lead to them talking about their experience. That’s the last thing you want to learn too much about. So try to keep it short and very simple. Have necessary conversations with them, and if you can, walk away and let them go.

24. Set Up Strong Boundaries

It is going to make or break your obsession with your crush. That’s to set healthy boundaries for yourself. Often, people want to fall into friendships with their crush, thinking if I’m close to them, if I’m in their lives, then when they break up, they’re going to choose me next. But what ends up happening is you end up getting friend-zoned.

The closer you become to that person as their friend, the harder it’s going to be for them to break you out of that role in their mind. It will be harder for them to transition into looking at you like someone to date if you’re such a close friend potentially. They don’t want to lose that friendship bond in the potential you guys can date, and it might not work out.

That’s why separating yourself from them and doing your own thing is vital. Because as you get older and as time moves on, when you reconnect with them later in the future, they’re going to see you as a different person. A person that’s grown and mature. A person who knows what they want is a potential person they may be interested in, whereas the original person they knew back then wasn’t.

Ultimately, what this all boils down to is that if your crush is dating someone and want to clear your obsession with them, you’re going to need to let them go. The fact is, they’re not ready to go out with you, and you’re not in a place where you’re able to them go if you need to.

You never want to be so obsessed with a person that you can’t stop thinking about them, and you’re directing your life in a way that doesn’t involve them. You want to have control of yourself. The first step here is to work on your obsession.

25. Your Crush Is A Common Person

Make a list of all the things you don’t like about them. This might seem mean and cruel, but it’s not. It is to help you realize that you and your crush may not have been that compatible after all and that everyone is human.

If you put your crush up on a pedestal, they’re going to seem like an angel or with the perfect person that would have been so perfect in a relationship. Still, realistically everyone is human, and nobody lives up to that excellent standard. Write a comprehensive list of things about your crush that can help take away that perfect status in your mind.

Some of you are going to say, “But there’s like nothing bad about my crush and all. They’re so perfect.” You’re lying. There is something not so great about everyone.

So now is your chance to let all those things about your crush out. We know that you’ve been putting them on a pedestal, and they’re not so perfect after all. So now is your chance to let those feelings out. Plus, all of the things that are not so great about them. It helps to humanize your crush and help you stop obsessing over them. They’re not perfect. Everybody has faults.

26. Be Productive

Focus on something particular in your life. Do it like a laser beam when you want to focus on something. So if you’ve wanted to master your triple pirouette dance for so long, or like get specific skills on the piano right, now is your time to do it.

Anytime you want to spend thinking about your crush, it’s time to channel that energy into something productive that you want to do that will benefit you in your life.

I don’t mean to flirt with your crush. I’m saying to flirt with other new people who make you feel pleased cute, sexy, and all that stuff. It’s your opportunity to try them out and master the art. The experience of flirting for recreation can make you feel so good and super sexy. It’s a fun thing to do. This also helps you realize that there is plenty of fish in the sea out there.

27. Improve Your Mental Energy

Do something nice for yourself that can help prove your self-esteem because right now, you deserve it. Breaking up with a crush is hard, so you deserve a little bit of a treat right now. That help gets you through this tough time. Breaking up with a crush is so hard that you deserve a little bit of a treat right now to boost your confidence.

Maybe you want to get a new dress, or your teeth whitened, or something for you that can make you feel fantastic. It takes attention away from your crush but also makes you feel like a way more fresh face to the world, and feel pretty, sexy, and like “Va Va Voom.” The more confident you are right now, the easier it’s going to be for you to move on.

28. Take Some Time

Be careful that you do not start liking somebody else immediately. Sometimes wanting someone can take the distraction away from the crush you’re walking away from, but it’s essential to make sure that we’re not transferring our feelings from the person right on to someone else. It leads us directly into another situation of potential unrequited love.

I usually recommend taking a little bit of your time, like some time away from having a crush, to focus on yourself and not immediately displacing those feelings onto someone else. Even if you are flirting with other people, it’s not a good idea to get too attached right now. This doesn’t solve the problem that we’re trying to
get through together right now.

29. Prepare Yourself Mentally

It is a hard thing that you’re going through in your life. Make sure that you give yourself some love right now. In my opinion, giving up on a crush and walking away from them is a form of heartbreak. So make sure you give yourself a break. Having a crush on someone feels so good. It’s inspiring and uplifting. It can make you feel pretty, sexy, or more joyful about life in general.

Suppose you can go into this experience prepared for it to be not so great. You like proactively inviting some friends over and planning a bunch of activities. They’re going to make you happy and mentally be prepared for a tough couple of weeks. This experience will be a lot easier for you than if you didn’t have any of these strategies at all.

Don’t forget, guys, and it’s going to go a lot better. Walking away from a bad crush is a lot better than having a bad crush. You’re one step closer to a significant positive relationship.

30. Understand The Love

This is a big one. Realize that their distance is what makes the appeal so strong. Have you ever had a crush on somebody who is all over you and desperate to date you? No, You have crushes on people who you are pretty sure you don’t have a chance with or who it seems like there’s some big obstacle to get with them. That’s why the crush exists and why it feels so healthy.

Because there’s a narrative in our society that we’re taught from a very young age that any kind of true love will be challenging to get at look at freaking Romeo and Juliet. Yeah, they weren’t allowed to be with each other that’s why they wanted to get together.

They had to overcome something. They had to have a conflict. So we’re taught that any love that’s worth it will be very difficult, which isn’t real and so that tricks into thinking, oh, that person seems like they’re unavailable.

31. Focus On Their Negative Aspects

Another thing that might be happening is this crush might be a comfort to you in some way to think about. In high school, I had a crush on this girl for years. I thought about her a lot, and it brought me comfort to think about it.

To think about her the same way, you might get comfort thinking about a vacation you have coming up in a few months. It was like this thing in front of me that I was like, I can get through this garbage. I’m going through it right now. If I can think about being with her one day, that’s weird.

I get it, I understand it, but you must realize that it is not a good thing to comfort yourself with to try to take yourself out of present troubles by fantasizing that you’re going to be with someone else.

Do you know what I mean? If you know this person well enough, you can focus on their negative aspects to help move on from the crush. You have to over-focus on the harmful elements to balance things out because it’s difficult when you like someone a lot to see them.

So first, look at what’s all the bad stuff about them, what wouldn’t I like, and focus on that, hone in on it. Get good about seeing people’s flaws. What helps is when I’ve realized that learning personality typology has made me like people a lot less. Because then, as you type people and try to type people, it forces you to look at their flaws. They’re not so good at and what’s that irritating about them, and why they are freaking out about this thing.

Why do they think these problems are real while others don’t think about them? So personality typology can help you try to type your crush, and in doing so, you might find I don’t like them anymore.

32. Pretend That Your Crush Is Gone

Just pretend they’re dead to you now. That’s an excellent way to forget them because out of sight, out of mind, you know what I’m saying? It might be more challenging if this is like, say you go to school, the person you’re sitting next to them.

It’s a bit harder but stay away from it with social media and all that. Or on the other hand, you can binge on this person and pay attention to them a lot. That’ll make you sick of them.

Talk to others as much as you can, spend as much time around them. The best remedy for liking someone is to spend more time with them.

33. Find Another Crush

Surprisingly, you can get another crush because I have found that I can only have one at a time. So, if there’s one person that I have a terrible crush on, the best way to get out to stop crushing on them is to find someone else, maybe someone better.

Doing the comparison thing helps a lot because when you go back to your original crush, you’re like, wow, this person isn’t very good compared to this other person.

Especially if you find another crush that’s ridiculously out of the other person’s league like a celebrity, like a movie star, or a supermodel, but when you do that, get into comparison-it is over this person. You’ll realize they aren’t so great. There’s better out there.

Why do I care so much about this person? I have looked back on my life at some of the people I’ve had crushes on, and I’m like, why? I was so focused on one person. It was embarrassing.

The younger you are, the less experience you have regarding human nature and knowing what people are like. So you don’t understand, you don’t see what you’re missing.

You don’t know what you’re not seeing. You don’t know what’s wrong with people because you haven’t yet learned to put together all the pieces of someone’s personality.

34. Make Confession With Your Crush

If you have a crush, the best advice I can give is to ask them out because either they will say yes, and then oh, great, you’ll get to go on a date with them, or they’ll say no. Then it’ll be yeah, painful, embarrassing, humiliating, but at least at that point, you’ll be like, oh, I don’t have a crush anymore.

I’m over this person. It might bring up something because you might be like, I don’t want to do that. I don’t want to ask the person out. Why not? Maybe if you have that reaction, it’s because I prefer keeping them at a distance.

That’s when they’re most attractive. Sometimes, when you start to play in your mind, the scenario of asking this person out and seeing that it’s possible that you could, the person becomes way less attractive.

They become more attainable, and that whole element of lack of attainability goes out the window. It makes you calm down a bit and see things in a more clear light. It is the big thing that I don’t relate to anymore, but I used to be there when I was younger because having a crush for a long time is pointless.

You get it over with it. If you have a crush on someone, you either need to be like, no, it’s not going to work, move on, or yeah, let me see if I can ask this person out. It’s one or the other. There’s no point in crushing on someone forever. It takes some courage. It’s complicated. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it’s much better to live in a world where you’re not embarrassed about that.

35. Think About Your Crush’s Perspective

One of the most important things I’ve learned over the years is that if you continue interacting with your crush the same way you did before you got rejected, you’re not going to get over it mentally. It hurdles and feels like, hey, this person doesn’t like me; it’s time to move on.

Instead, if you keep talking to them every single day, joking around as if nothing happened, as if they didn’t turn you down, well, then you’re going to maintain that level of hope and think maybe I can change their mind.

Maybe they weren’t sure, or they’re not ready to date me yet. All bright ideas are possible, and they’re not always practical. We’re still hoping that our crush will be the one to take the action step here. Our crush will be the one that will limit their interaction with us. They’re going to talk to us, lesThey’re’re going to realize that we have feelings for them, and they’re going to change their behavior based on that.

But the truth of the matter is the change has to come from us. Think about it from your crush’s perspective. Before they found out that you liked them, things were every day.

36. Don’t Make Friendship

For your crush, they may want things to go right back to how they were before you’ve done them. But now that they are different, you need to stop reading so much into their cues. To stop looking at every action, they take every word. They say everything they do is a sign that they may be interested in you.

This is a common mistake that many people who are hurt make. I called it “The Friend Zone Loop.” What it is is that you convince yourself that if you keep flirting, talking to, or trying to get to know your crush better, even after they’ve rejected you, eventually you’re going to change their mind, so you look for these little cues that they give you. Maybe they smiled at you, and perhaps they said hello. Maybe they texted you out of the blue.

Those are signs that you’re still in the game in your mind, so you continuously try for them. The major problem here is that when you finally realize that this isn’t working out for me, this person doesn’t like me back boom, that’s when the text message pops up with them saying, “Hey, how’s it going” and now you feel like you’re back in the game.

I don’t think people are voluntarily choosing to do this. It’s because they’re not taking the action steps they need to break out of this process to change things to overcome those hurt feelings.

37. Talk About Your Feelings With Crush

A significant part of that getting over process is talking about your feelings but not making your crush the center of those conversations. This is something a lot of people do.

When they like someone, they’re always talking to their friends about them, not so much about how they can move on and win it but how they didn’t understand why their crush texted them. Or what happened when their crush looked at them or when’s the next time they can have a conversation with them.

You become so focused on making things work rather than seeing things for what they are. Maybe the advice you’re getting in your life is split.

Some of your friends tell you you should still go for it despite getting rejected because why would they continue talking to you if they didn’t like you while your other friends might be telling you it’s not worth your time, it’s time to move on. Still, those tend to be the friends we ignore because they don’t align with what we want.

If your crush’s feelings are frequently the focus of your conversation with your friends, ask yourself this simple question. When I talk to them about it, am I focusing on proactive solutions that can help me move forward or understanding my crush’s confusing behaviors and actions?

If it’s the first one, that’s good. It means you’re on the road to recovery. You’re looking for ways out of it. But if it’s the second one, that means that you’re stuck in this vicious loop, the friend zone loop, and you’re not going to get out of it until you’re able to move on.

38. Be Hopeful

The next thing you should do to overtake your crush is remembered that it doesn’t happen overnight. Everything takes time for feelings; good emotions and bad feelings are like some things you can’t control. The best way to escape something is only by giving it time.

So when you’re trying hard to like something regardless of what it is in life, it consumes your mind, and you want it to happen now you want to be successful. You want to feel better now, and unfortunately, life doesn’t always work that way.

It’s important to remember you’re going to have some days that feel better than others. It’s going to take some time before you can move on from someone, and that can be frustrating, but if you remember that, maybe it will allow you not to go as crazy. You’ll feel a little bit better about it.

39. Discuss It With Your Friends Or Family

Talk about your feelings with someone you trust or someone you’re close with. I feel like I use this one a lot. I’m not good about bundling up my feelings. If something’s on my mind or something’s bothering me, I have to talk to someone, or it only eats me alive.

So I’ll tend to like go to my mom and then probably cry or something. Then she’ll like to make me feel better, and it makes me feel better to get it off my chest.

So if you’re someone like me and you need someone to talk to, like find someone you trust, a friend, a family member, whoever. I can’t stop thinking about so-and-so, and it’s not fair. I don’t know what to do. I believe in the end you’re going to feel a little bit better. So don’t be afraid to share how you’re feeling.

40. Try Not To Obsess

Try not to obsess over the person no matter your feelings, no matter how much you think you’re in love with someone. You have to remember that they’re another person. There are tons of great people out there and sometimes are like love-drunk mine. We feel like there is no one better than this specific person, and there’s no way you’re ever going to move on.

It does feel that way, and I’ve been there. Sometimes, if you look at it more objectively or try to stop obsessing over someone and realize that they may not be as great as they are in your mind, they could be awesome, no offense to the person.

But my point is that if you try to avoid obsessing over someone so much, that will help you realize that there are many cool people out there. So you don’t have only to be stuck up on this one person because they’re not worth obsessing over.

Bonus Tip – Hang Out With Friends

Hanging out with friends is different than hanging out with your boyfriend or girlfriend because you don’t get as many highs and lows. But that’s the thing friends are less likely to have drama and hurt feelings while you can still fight.

You got to distract yourself, and hanging out with your friends is a great way to do that. I can’t believe I’m about to say this one guy. It’s a way for people to try and meet other people in a very convenient way. That’s a great way to move on from someone. Don’t trap yourself in your house.

Conclusion

Liking someone doesn’t have to be weird. That’s something else that used to be very real to me like, oh, I, if you want someone, that’s weird. It’s like, hey, you feel like going out?

It’s not a big deal. Stop thinking of it as being so weird. Don’t hold onto crushes for a while. I don’t get it. I’ve talked to people who spoke about how they still reminisce about crushes they had for years, and I’m like, why? That is cringing-worthy; stop it. It makes me like I have this ugh, this bodily reaction when people talk about that stuff.

It’s not romantic to have crushed on someone for a while and never have asked them out. Also, if they reject you in the end, it’s like, who cares? Okay, get over it. It’s not a big deal.

There are a lot of people out there. I’m kicking some people’s butts here, and I might seem harsh. But it’s because I’m reacting against my younger self who thought this stuff was genuine, who was so scared of rejection and so scared to expose that I liked someone and finish it; there’s no point. Don’t do it. There are a couple of more points here.

I hope you found this article helpful, and if you still have questions or want to talk, I find the comments of these articles. It is always a fantastic place to get additional support and share your story. So don’t feel afraid to do that. Please share this article with your friends that they can move on from their crushes and develop themselves.


Patricia Lyon

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